Frustrated

Hi,

I'm at my wits end. My son is so aggressive towards his dad.

He gets so angry and up tight. Would you believe it's all over his dad's coughing

As soon as Gavin ( thats The dad) coughs James (our son) goes right into one.

He refuses to eat with us. He dose nothing but copy his dad non-stop 24 7

He gets so worked up over it. It's causing so much stress between us all. 

It's not right. My son  is 14. And I totally feel worn down with it.

He sits in his room,curtains and door shut,that's his life. He doesn't want to socialise

With anyone. Eating is a nightmare.

Yet the dr says his not depressed !! His autistic yes. But how do u cope with the  

Non existence of  hygiene,being the no 1 enemy and the total melt downs at home and

The aggressive behaviour. Also we can't go on holiday for more than a weekend because

We know James can't handle change....yes we have planned it spoke about it....it dosent 

Work.tops it lasts  2 days and he wants to go home. And he just makes life unbelievably

Unbearable until you come home.

Days out, are no more. We have given up. We just pop out and back now.

As James wants to go out.we go and as soon as we are there he wants to come home again.

If you don't it's a living Hell, or we get can I go sit in the car and wait for you.after

5minutes.

His 14yrs old hates school,has no interest in nothing. Only owls,dragons and minecraft 

That's his life... we love him to bits. Yet his always more so lately at arms length.

It's destroying us as a family. We have a younger daughter too. So she's 11. And it's 

Very hard for her too. As we can't gel as a family. We really want to...Yet James will not

Have it. It's heart breaking. And so so frustrating.

We are seeing a dr for help, but to be honest they just want to seek help at the school.as

The school know his autistic and are not helping him at all.his quite at school so he gets 

Forgotten about.

Sorry rant over.....just feeling so frustrated all round

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  • I don't know what would have happened had I not been really good at music in my teens, but there were so many openings for group activities (orchestras, choirs) that I didn't actually realise I had a socialising problem until decades later.

    So your son likes Owls, Dragons and Minecraft. Good start, perhaps, tho' I don't know anything really about any of them.  Is there some way these interests might have a social dimension?  Through a competition, perhaps, with others who also like them? Wonder if some prize could be offered...

    I remember wowing some bullies when I said I was taken Maths GSCE at 14. I couldn't believe it. Still, I wasn't arguing that they stopped. Maybe scoring 10 times as much as anyone else at the aforementioned O D M might do something.

    Look, I'm probably way out of my depth here, but work with your son's strengths is what I suggest.

    Yours, Humbly

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  • I don't know what would have happened had I not been really good at music in my teens, but there were so many openings for group activities (orchestras, choirs) that I didn't actually realise I had a socialising problem until decades later.

    So your son likes Owls, Dragons and Minecraft. Good start, perhaps, tho' I don't know anything really about any of them.  Is there some way these interests might have a social dimension?  Through a competition, perhaps, with others who also like them? Wonder if some prize could be offered...

    I remember wowing some bullies when I said I was taken Maths GSCE at 14. I couldn't believe it. Still, I wasn't arguing that they stopped. Maybe scoring 10 times as much as anyone else at the aforementioned O D M might do something.

    Look, I'm probably way out of my depth here, but work with your son's strengths is what I suggest.

    Yours, Humbly

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