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My son will not wash/wear deodorant

Debs75

Hello,

I have major issues with my 14 year old son. Biggest issue as well as others is his

Total lack of hygiene. He washes in water only, and refuses to wear deodorant of

Any form or kind. Which leads him to be very stinky. I fear school peers are going

To bully him, as well as its not healthy for him.

Have told the dr we are seeing,she hasn't really addressed the issue, she's more concerned about the other issues we are having.

Has anyone got any ideas please ??

He doesn't care less about his hygiene,yet it makes me physically sick the smells so bad.

We can't get though to him...I understand its a link to the autism he has.the touch the feel ect. But wot can u do ??? I'm on my knees !!! I give up...Have run out ideas or any hope.

Feeling dragged down, so many issues....you guys are my lifeline...

Debbie

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  • Well, he definitely has a sense of smell because he reacts quite badly when the cat litter is dirty, although he refuses to clear it himself.  He also complains when we've used air freshener and has complained about the strong smell of some bathroom products.  AS a result I tend to opt for perfume-free products.  But when it comes to his own smell, he really doesn't seem aware.  He didn't seem to notice when other family members smelt  either.  It is as if somehow body odour is OK.  

    Last week the consultant, who is discharging him from her team back to the care of the GP, said that she doubted whether I'd get any answers on this one.  I live in hope though.  It seems the problem is both a sensory thing plus a lack of motivation.  But there also seems to be a blind spot too, the sort of blind spot that isn't affected by drawing something to his attention.  I find it hard to handle so, for the sake of peace, have stopped trying for now.      

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  • Well, he definitely has a sense of smell because he reacts quite badly when the cat litter is dirty, although he refuses to clear it himself.  He also complains when we've used air freshener and has complained about the strong smell of some bathroom products.  AS a result I tend to opt for perfume-free products.  But when it comes to his own smell, he really doesn't seem aware.  He didn't seem to notice when other family members smelt  either.  It is as if somehow body odour is OK.  

    Last week the consultant, who is discharging him from her team back to the care of the GP, said that she doubted whether I'd get any answers on this one.  I live in hope though.  It seems the problem is both a sensory thing plus a lack of motivation.  But there also seems to be a blind spot too, the sort of blind spot that isn't affected by drawing something to his attention.  I find it hard to handle so, for the sake of peace, have stopped trying for now.      

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