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My son will not wash/wear deodorant

Debs75

Hello,

I have major issues with my 14 year old son. Biggest issue as well as others is his

Total lack of hygiene. He washes in water only, and refuses to wear deodorant of

Any form or kind. Which leads him to be very stinky. I fear school peers are going

To bully him, as well as its not healthy for him.

Have told the dr we are seeing,she hasn't really addressed the issue, she's more concerned about the other issues we are having.

Has anyone got any ideas please ??

He doesn't care less about his hygiene,yet it makes me physically sick the smells so bad.

We can't get though to him...I understand its a link to the autism he has.the touch the feel ect. But wot can u do ??? I'm on my knees !!! I give up...Have run out ideas or any hope.

Feeling dragged down, so many issues....you guys are my lifeline...

Debbie

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  • Hi Deb75,

    To add an anecdote; when I was younger, I had a friend who, at the time (I believe probably from birth until approximately 17) would not bathe or wash. This went to the extent of pretending to bathe entirely (i.e. running a bath or shower without using it)!

    In his case, there was never a clear (or even an unclear) explanation as to why he would not, beyond that he didn’t like to.

    However, one thing that he did enjoy (and was no doubt encouraged to do by his mother) was swimming in the local swimming baths. This, at least in the immediate/short term stopped the smell, while also being good exercise. Is there a 'fun' swimming baths (i.e. with a tide pool/slides) near you?

    If you can encourage him to visit these somewhat regularly with friend(s), this may help in the long term (i.e. it will force him to use a shower, using bathing products, after visiting the baths to prevent a chlorine rash or itchy scalp). This would help him get used to the feeling of a shower and also, with any luck, set up a routine.

    The deodorant problem, on the other hand, is a separate issue. Is something like after-shave acceptable to him?

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  • Hi Deb75,

    To add an anecdote; when I was younger, I had a friend who, at the time (I believe probably from birth until approximately 17) would not bathe or wash. This went to the extent of pretending to bathe entirely (i.e. running a bath or shower without using it)!

    In his case, there was never a clear (or even an unclear) explanation as to why he would not, beyond that he didn’t like to.

    However, one thing that he did enjoy (and was no doubt encouraged to do by his mother) was swimming in the local swimming baths. This, at least in the immediate/short term stopped the smell, while also being good exercise. Is there a 'fun' swimming baths (i.e. with a tide pool/slides) near you?

    If you can encourage him to visit these somewhat regularly with friend(s), this may help in the long term (i.e. it will force him to use a shower, using bathing products, after visiting the baths to prevent a chlorine rash or itchy scalp). This would help him get used to the feeling of a shower and also, with any luck, set up a routine.

    The deodorant problem, on the other hand, is a separate issue. Is something like after-shave acceptable to him?

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