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My son will not wash/wear deodorant

Debs75

Hello,

I have major issues with my 14 year old son. Biggest issue as well as others is his

Total lack of hygiene. He washes in water only, and refuses to wear deodorant of

Any form or kind. Which leads him to be very stinky. I fear school peers are going

To bully him, as well as its not healthy for him.

Have told the dr we are seeing,she hasn't really addressed the issue, she's more concerned about the other issues we are having.

Has anyone got any ideas please ??

He doesn't care less about his hygiene,yet it makes me physically sick the smells so bad.

We can't get though to him...I understand its a link to the autism he has.the touch the feel ect. But wot can u do ??? I'm on my knees !!! I give up...Have run out ideas or any hope.

Feeling dragged down, so many issues....you guys are my lifeline...

Debbie

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  • It may well be a sensory thing.  The shower is always avoided as he says it feels claustrophobic.  He'll sometimes have a bath eventually, if I give him a nudge on several consecutive days, but then won't use any products at all, even ones with no frangrance.  One problem is that he seems very preoccupied with his pananoid thoughts about negativity and he seems to feel that, in the light of this, day-to-day chores are a very secondary issue.  But he smells bad and this attracts negative attention, which to my mind can only reinforce the ideas about negativity.  In the end, we failed to ever persuade our dad to change.  I am forced to wonder whether this is just something that we have to accept, however difficult that might be.    

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  • It may well be a sensory thing.  The shower is always avoided as he says it feels claustrophobic.  He'll sometimes have a bath eventually, if I give him a nudge on several consecutive days, but then won't use any products at all, even ones with no frangrance.  One problem is that he seems very preoccupied with his pananoid thoughts about negativity and he seems to feel that, in the light of this, day-to-day chores are a very secondary issue.  But he smells bad and this attracts negative attention, which to my mind can only reinforce the ideas about negativity.  In the end, we failed to ever persuade our dad to change.  I am forced to wonder whether this is just something that we have to accept, however difficult that might be.    

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