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My son will not wash/wear deodorant

Debs75

Hello,

I have major issues with my 14 year old son. Biggest issue as well as others is his

Total lack of hygiene. He washes in water only, and refuses to wear deodorant of

Any form or kind. Which leads him to be very stinky. I fear school peers are going

To bully him, as well as its not healthy for him.

Have told the dr we are seeing,she hasn't really addressed the issue, she's more concerned about the other issues we are having.

Has anyone got any ideas please ??

He doesn't care less about his hygiene,yet it makes me physically sick the smells so bad.

We can't get though to him...I understand its a link to the autism he has.the touch the feel ect. But wot can u do ??? I'm on my knees !!! I give up...Have run out ideas or any hope.

Feeling dragged down, so many issues....you guys are my lifeline...

Debbie

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  • Have had a think about various ideas but they mainly involve different products or methods.  Whilst these do give a much better range of options, in my son's case (as in my dad's) it seems to be the motivation that is missing.  My son genuinely doesn't seem to realise that he smells bad and can just go on indefinitely, apparently oblivious to the filth that (without my "fussing") can build up around him.  Whilst he is also aware, on an intellectual level, of the probability of pain and tooth decay from neglecting his teeth, this never translates into behaviours to prevent this happening.  It is as if he knows but is somehow unable to muster up the energy to act on this knowledge.  

    So I remain stumped.  And upset, really.  This is all too reminiscent of how my dad was and it deeply affected us as a family (to the extent of feeling too ashamed to invite friends home).    has anyone found a way though?

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  • Have had a think about various ideas but they mainly involve different products or methods.  Whilst these do give a much better range of options, in my son's case (as in my dad's) it seems to be the motivation that is missing.  My son genuinely doesn't seem to realise that he smells bad and can just go on indefinitely, apparently oblivious to the filth that (without my "fussing") can build up around him.  Whilst he is also aware, on an intellectual level, of the probability of pain and tooth decay from neglecting his teeth, this never translates into behaviours to prevent this happening.  It is as if he knows but is somehow unable to muster up the energy to act on this knowledge.  

    So I remain stumped.  And upset, really.  This is all too reminiscent of how my dad was and it deeply affected us as a family (to the extent of feeling too ashamed to invite friends home).    has anyone found a way though?

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