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My son will not wash/wear deodorant

Debs75

Hello,

I have major issues with my 14 year old son. Biggest issue as well as others is his

Total lack of hygiene. He washes in water only, and refuses to wear deodorant of

Any form or kind. Which leads him to be very stinky. I fear school peers are going

To bully him, as well as its not healthy for him.

Have told the dr we are seeing,she hasn't really addressed the issue, she's more concerned about the other issues we are having.

Has anyone got any ideas please ??

He doesn't care less about his hygiene,yet it makes me physically sick the smells so bad.

We can't get though to him...I understand its a link to the autism he has.the touch the feel ect. But wot can u do ??? I'm on my knees !!! I give up...Have run out ideas or any hope.

Feeling dragged down, so many issues....you guys are my lifeline...

Debbie

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  • Hello Debbie,

    I'm afraid I can only sympathise as I can really relate to what you've said but, so far, have found no easy answers.  I've been battling with this one all my life, it seems.  My dad never understood about the need for washing or using products like shampoo or deodorant, in spite of our frequent protestations and appropriate Xmas gifts (as teenage girls it became a particular issue for us).  Now, since around the age of 15/16, our son has adopted the same behaviours and is always smelly and mucky.  He doesn't even cut his toenails, preferring to leave them to crack and drop off!  I am very worried that this makes people view him negatively and avoid him, feeding into his paranoid thoughts about feeling "negative energy" radiating from others.  Leaving different products in the bathroom (chocolate or mint scented, or organic according to his expressed tastes) and talking to him or persuading him just hasn't worked.  He doesn't take hints, either, and telling him he smells just puts him in a depressed mood without any result in terms of improved hygiene. 

    Sorry to add to your thread without any answers on this but just chiming in to say that, if there are any factsheets or advice on this problem anywhere, I'd also be very grateful for any information.  It's quite a problem and I'm tearing my hair out too because of it!

    Has anyone had any success in this area?  I'm so glad you brought it up, Debbie.  You're quite right about the professionals not giving any specific advice on this one and it's a glaring ommission. 

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  • Hello Debbie,

    I'm afraid I can only sympathise as I can really relate to what you've said but, so far, have found no easy answers.  I've been battling with this one all my life, it seems.  My dad never understood about the need for washing or using products like shampoo or deodorant, in spite of our frequent protestations and appropriate Xmas gifts (as teenage girls it became a particular issue for us).  Now, since around the age of 15/16, our son has adopted the same behaviours and is always smelly and mucky.  He doesn't even cut his toenails, preferring to leave them to crack and drop off!  I am very worried that this makes people view him negatively and avoid him, feeding into his paranoid thoughts about feeling "negative energy" radiating from others.  Leaving different products in the bathroom (chocolate or mint scented, or organic according to his expressed tastes) and talking to him or persuading him just hasn't worked.  He doesn't take hints, either, and telling him he smells just puts him in a depressed mood without any result in terms of improved hygiene. 

    Sorry to add to your thread without any answers on this but just chiming in to say that, if there are any factsheets or advice on this problem anywhere, I'd also be very grateful for any information.  It's quite a problem and I'm tearing my hair out too because of it!

    Has anyone had any success in this area?  I'm so glad you brought it up, Debbie.  You're quite right about the professionals not giving any specific advice on this one and it's a glaring ommission. 

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