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Dealing with emotions when people snap at you.

KaloJaro

Hi,

Recently been having more trouble when it comes to normal people again, but my main concern is trying to sort out my emotions. It could be I'm getting stressed over an upcoming uni interview but still...

All my life whenever someone snaps at me I always feel lost, helpless and scared. Often I will end up avoiding said person for days even weeks because every time I see them the memory of them snapping at me comes up, along with the same overwhelming emotions, leaving me feeling unwanted and as though its best if I just 'stay out of the way' even if the person is trying to include me.

Normally I try to let the emotions run their course until I forget or get distracted by something else but recently been snapped at by my mum (shes wound up for some reason that everyone else seems to know except me, which doesn't help) who is often the first person I turn to with advice for my emotions, shes also the one taking me on a 5-6 hour car drive to the uni I'm applying for next wednesday (30th Nov) meaning it'll be impossible to avoid her.

Any ideas, tips or coping strategies?

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  • Hi everyone,

    Thanks for all the replies and advice, I've talked with my mum who seems to have finally understood how anxious being snapped at made me, admittedly it took pacing around the room for 20 minutes before bursting into tears when I couldn't make the words come out the way I wanted but at least the lesson seems to have been learnt.

    I also talked about her and she's decided to do more research about Asperger's than just reading the booklet CAHM's gave us, so hopefully she'll get where I'm coming from and why some things are harder for me than others.

    Daisygirl, I know what you mean in terms of that kind of relationship. Its the road my dad and step-mum went down and now I hardly ever see/speak to them, its even started affecting his side of my family who're now getting worried, although they seem to believe I'm the one who wants to break things off with them (I don't, I just feel too vulnerable explaining Aspergers to a large group of adults and children with some relatives who I know will wave it off as a lie despite the CAHM's report.)

    I wonder sometimes if I should direct them to this forum to show them how I feel as well as the fact that there are others like me here?

    Thanks again for all you advice, its been really appreciated.

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  • Hi everyone,

    Thanks for all the replies and advice, I've talked with my mum who seems to have finally understood how anxious being snapped at made me, admittedly it took pacing around the room for 20 minutes before bursting into tears when I couldn't make the words come out the way I wanted but at least the lesson seems to have been learnt.

    I also talked about her and she's decided to do more research about Asperger's than just reading the booklet CAHM's gave us, so hopefully she'll get where I'm coming from and why some things are harder for me than others.

    Daisygirl, I know what you mean in terms of that kind of relationship. Its the road my dad and step-mum went down and now I hardly ever see/speak to them, its even started affecting his side of my family who're now getting worried, although they seem to believe I'm the one who wants to break things off with them (I don't, I just feel too vulnerable explaining Aspergers to a large group of adults and children with some relatives who I know will wave it off as a lie despite the CAHM's report.)

    I wonder sometimes if I should direct them to this forum to show them how I feel as well as the fact that there are others like me here?

    Thanks again for all you advice, its been really appreciated.

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