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Dealing with emotions when people snap at you.

KaloJaro

Hi,

Recently been having more trouble when it comes to normal people again, but my main concern is trying to sort out my emotions. It could be I'm getting stressed over an upcoming uni interview but still...

All my life whenever someone snaps at me I always feel lost, helpless and scared. Often I will end up avoiding said person for days even weeks because every time I see them the memory of them snapping at me comes up, along with the same overwhelming emotions, leaving me feeling unwanted and as though its best if I just 'stay out of the way' even if the person is trying to include me.

Normally I try to let the emotions run their course until I forget or get distracted by something else but recently been snapped at by my mum (shes wound up for some reason that everyone else seems to know except me, which doesn't help) who is often the first person I turn to with advice for my emotions, shes also the one taking me on a 5-6 hour car drive to the uni I'm applying for next wednesday (30th Nov) meaning it'll be impossible to avoid her.

Any ideas, tips or coping strategies?

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  • Hello

    Sorry to hear about the anxiety you are experiencing KaloJaro and DasiyGirl.  As a Mum of a child with AS who used to be very verbally challenging, I needed a lot of help to become competent with managing my own emotions during communication breakdowns.  That's where the 'snapping' is probably coming from.  What was underlying it in our family was our (parents) superficial understanding of autism - it wasnt until we came to really understand the condition deeply and subsequently change our own communication style and master limit setting that we began to have a more manageable family dynamic.

    Re suggestions - perhaps you might consider a referral to a Family Therapist who has a good understanding of autism and how it can affect family dynamics and relationships?  Such a Therapist should be able to help you talk through any difficulties and perhaps eventually support you to talk to your parents about how the breakdowns in communication make you feel.  You should be able to obtain a referral through your GP - if not, I'm sure the NAS helpline could advise.

    Hope it works out for you.

    Zoe

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  • Hello

    Sorry to hear about the anxiety you are experiencing KaloJaro and DasiyGirl.  As a Mum of a child with AS who used to be very verbally challenging, I needed a lot of help to become competent with managing my own emotions during communication breakdowns.  That's where the 'snapping' is probably coming from.  What was underlying it in our family was our (parents) superficial understanding of autism - it wasnt until we came to really understand the condition deeply and subsequently change our own communication style and master limit setting that we began to have a more manageable family dynamic.

    Re suggestions - perhaps you might consider a referral to a Family Therapist who has a good understanding of autism and how it can affect family dynamics and relationships?  Such a Therapist should be able to help you talk through any difficulties and perhaps eventually support you to talk to your parents about how the breakdowns in communication make you feel.  You should be able to obtain a referral through your GP - if not, I'm sure the NAS helpline could advise.

    Hope it works out for you.

    Zoe

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