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Dealing with emotions when people snap at you.

KaloJaro

Hi,

Recently been having more trouble when it comes to normal people again, but my main concern is trying to sort out my emotions. It could be I'm getting stressed over an upcoming uni interview but still...

All my life whenever someone snaps at me I always feel lost, helpless and scared. Often I will end up avoiding said person for days even weeks because every time I see them the memory of them snapping at me comes up, along with the same overwhelming emotions, leaving me feeling unwanted and as though its best if I just 'stay out of the way' even if the person is trying to include me.

Normally I try to let the emotions run their course until I forget or get distracted by something else but recently been snapped at by my mum (shes wound up for some reason that everyone else seems to know except me, which doesn't help) who is often the first person I turn to with advice for my emotions, shes also the one taking me on a 5-6 hour car drive to the uni I'm applying for next wednesday (30th Nov) meaning it'll be impossible to avoid her.

Any ideas, tips or coping strategies?

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  • Hi KaloJaro,

    Sorry this post isn't a solution, I was just wanting to sympathise. I have exacty this problem at the moment. I have no relationship with my parents now except in the most superficial way because of "snapping" which made my anxiety much worse, which led to more snapping, more anxiety etc.etc. and then I couldn't cope any more, and so I withdrew from them. I have no idea how to stop this cycle.

    Perhaps if you have a good relationship with your family you can talk to them about being lost and scared before if spirals further. Maybe they don't know how bad it makes you feel.

    I wish I had a solution to this. I now feel totally alone and frequently descend into panic and hopelessness because my feelings are too much, the anxiety is too much and NT family don't seem at all bothered (even though I've done a lot of very difficult things to support them when they have had problems themselves).

    I'll try to end this on a more positive note. Talking to, and being honest with family is always worth a try. I hope it works, and you get the support you need.

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  • Hi KaloJaro,

    Sorry this post isn't a solution, I was just wanting to sympathise. I have exacty this problem at the moment. I have no relationship with my parents now except in the most superficial way because of "snapping" which made my anxiety much worse, which led to more snapping, more anxiety etc.etc. and then I couldn't cope any more, and so I withdrew from them. I have no idea how to stop this cycle.

    Perhaps if you have a good relationship with your family you can talk to them about being lost and scared before if spirals further. Maybe they don't know how bad it makes you feel.

    I wish I had a solution to this. I now feel totally alone and frequently descend into panic and hopelessness because my feelings are too much, the anxiety is too much and NT family don't seem at all bothered (even though I've done a lot of very difficult things to support them when they have had problems themselves).

    I'll try to end this on a more positive note. Talking to, and being honest with family is always worth a try. I hope it works, and you get the support you need.

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