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relationship with a guy with autism

tsl123

Hi Everyone,

Firstly can I apologise for this post... I fear it may come across as offensive, honestly that is not my intention at all.

The reason for my post is to try and educate myself and my wife as to what Autism is and how people that do not suffer from the condition (is that the right terminoligy?) relate to people that do.

My 14 year old daughter is currently in a relationship with a 14year old boy that is Autistic, the relationship is having an amazing effect on the boy and has really brought him out of his shell, the change in him has astonished his parents and grandparents
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The problem that I have, and i know it is my problem, entirely through my lack of understanding of Autism, is what happens if the relationship ends? My preconceptions are that he may become infactuated with my daughter, and the become totally irrational...

Thank you for your time in reading this post and if I have offended anyone or caused any upset it was not my intention.

Tony

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  • I understand your concerns, it "may" happen, but no one knows what will happen, and in the grand scheme what is the probability that will happen.

    I can relate to the boys situation, I too was painfully shy at that age. When I was just turning in to adulthood, I became infatuated and obsessed with a girl I fell in love with. While it lead to a few uneasy conversations as we both worked at the same company, that was it as far as she was concerned. It had a much deeper effect on me though.

    I would try and get to know his parents, and in his own time, the boyfriend as well. Recognise too, that there are also positive aspects to autism, everyone is different.

    Even taking autism out of the picture, I am sure all parents have concerns about their childs first relationship at this age.

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  • I understand your concerns, it "may" happen, but no one knows what will happen, and in the grand scheme what is the probability that will happen.

    I can relate to the boys situation, I too was painfully shy at that age. When I was just turning in to adulthood, I became infatuated and obsessed with a girl I fell in love with. While it lead to a few uneasy conversations as we both worked at the same company, that was it as far as she was concerned. It had a much deeper effect on me though.

    I would try and get to know his parents, and in his own time, the boyfriend as well. Recognise too, that there are also positive aspects to autism, everyone is different.

    Even taking autism out of the picture, I am sure all parents have concerns about their childs first relationship at this age.

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