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relationship with a guy with autism

tsl123

Hi Everyone,

Firstly can I apologise for this post... I fear it may come across as offensive, honestly that is not my intention at all.

The reason for my post is to try and educate myself and my wife as to what Autism is and how people that do not suffer from the condition (is that the right terminoligy?) relate to people that do.

My 14 year old daughter is currently in a relationship with a 14year old boy that is Autistic, the relationship is having an amazing effect on the boy and has really brought him out of his shell, the change in him has astonished his parents and grandparents
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The problem that I have, and i know it is my problem, entirely through my lack of understanding of Autism, is what happens if the relationship ends? My preconceptions are that he may become infactuated with my daughter, and the become totally irrational...

Thank you for your time in reading this post and if I have offended anyone or caused any upset it was not my intention.

Tony

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  • I would say whilst be aware of the future, stop worrying about the future. The relationship may grow into a happy one just like other relationships or may deteriorate just like other ones. So called normal healthy people can become just as obsessive and stalk as of any one of any condition. All perhaps you need to be concerned about is, if the relationship does break up and if these things appear to be happening then nip it in the bud early if possible.

    Just allow them their freedom for now and try not to worry ahead. I thought it was meant to be us what overthink not normal people as such.  Ha ha. Meant to be funny hope you don't take that the wrong way.  You can't totally plan for potential problems as they problem wont happen in a format you expecting and not see it until too late.

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  • I would say whilst be aware of the future, stop worrying about the future. The relationship may grow into a happy one just like other relationships or may deteriorate just like other ones. So called normal healthy people can become just as obsessive and stalk as of any one of any condition. All perhaps you need to be concerned about is, if the relationship does break up and if these things appear to be happening then nip it in the bud early if possible.

    Just allow them their freedom for now and try not to worry ahead. I thought it was meant to be us what overthink not normal people as such.  Ha ha. Meant to be funny hope you don't take that the wrong way.  You can't totally plan for potential problems as they problem wont happen in a format you expecting and not see it until too late.

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