relationship with a guy with autism

There is evidence that some people on the autistic spectrum can become obsessive about someone else, and pester or stalk them. Trouble is it is one manifestation of autism, and not a general rule. The media portrayal of autism often highlights this.

In a wider context I've so often met people who perceive that mental illness means someone will attack people - most mental illness is something a lot less hazardous to others - eating disorders, anxiety, phobias.

It is important to consider that autism encompasses a wide range of symptoms, balanced by personality and endurance. This boyfriend may well be benefitting from the relationship. That might inform you that the nature of the autism isn't such as would lead to irrational infatuation.

Usually someone who misunderstands relationships will have real demonstrable problems that reflect that risk - not being able to gain any understanding from most social contact, and therefore likely to have fundamental problems with seeing whether affection is reciprocated or a person is annoyed.

Possibly the boy in this case is at the same school, a mainstream school? He might be quite able and quite independent. If he is responding to a relationship that suggests an abler individual.

A person at the abler end of the spectrum might find social interaction difficult, might be a bit over-focussed about certain hobbies to the point of boring some people, might not be as well organised, or lack coordination, and might have trouble in noisy environments.

I think you'd know if your daughter had taken on someone with marked autism - she would be having quite a struggle to interact.

And strangely enough lots of people with autism do manage to marry or sustain a relationship.

Consider him for who he is. The autism might make his life a bit harder. Try to avoid being inflenced by stereotypes.

There is evidence that some people on the autistic spectrum can become obsessive about someone else, and pester or stalk them. Trouble is it is one manifestation of autism, and not a general rule. The media portrayal of autism often highlights this.

In a wider context I've so often met people who perceive that mental illness means someone will attack people - most mental illness is something a lot less hazardous to others - eating disorders, anxiety, phobias.

It is important to consider that autism encompasses a wide range of symptoms, balanced by personality and endurance. This boyfriend may well be benefitting from the relationship. That might inform you that the nature of the autism isn't such as would lead to irrational infatuation.

Usually someone who misunderstands relationships will have real demonstrable problems that reflect that risk - not being able to gain any understanding from most social contact, and therefore likely to have fundamental problems with seeing whether affection is reciprocated or a person is annoyed.

Possibly the boy in this case is at the same school, a mainstream school? He might be quite able and quite independent. If he is responding to a relationship that suggests an abler individual.

A person at the abler end of the spectrum might find social interaction difficult, might be a bit over-focussed about certain hobbies to the point of boring some people, might not be as well organised, or lack coordination, and might have trouble in noisy environments.

I think you'd know if your daughter had taken on someone with marked autism - she would be having quite a struggle to interact.

And strangely enough lots of people with autism do manage to marry or sustain a relationship.

Consider him for who he is. The autism might make his life a bit harder. Try to avoid being inflenced by stereotypes.