Hypersensitive to touch but want a hug from someone....

Im really sensitive to being touched, it hurts and makes me feel uncomfortable, but I just feel so lonely I want someone to hug me. I don't really understand why.

Please, does anyone feel like this or understand at all? And, if anyone has felt like this, did hugging anyone make you feel better or did it just make it worse? 

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  • You're welcome, I'm very happy to be of some use.  Apparently it's quite a common thing for autistic people to relate better to animals/nature.  When I was a child I had a cat who was my most favourite being in the whole world.  She always knew when I needed comfort.  I used to do a lot of art too, but stopped a while back for some reason that I am not sure of.  I wish I still did it, but I can't find the urge to somehow.

    I haven't told my parents about being autistic, they wouldn't understand it and would probably just tell me that everyone feels like this.  They operate as part of the NT planet whereas I don't.

    I have been in similar situations before so I know what you mean (well, I don't really but I may have some idea from my experience).  I got made redundant and then tried to work freelance for a year or 2 and failed at that and also failed at other job interviews, and then started volunteering in a different sector- then I got a job after 6 months of volunteering.  I also got out of an abusive relationship during this time, as I had to move back home with my parents and away from my partner.  It was a very hard time for me but I have so many more positive things in my life now, although finding out that I am autistic has been a hard journey for me to go on, I am sure I will feel better as time goes on.  

    I hope you can also see this too, I do honestly believe that we need to keep on trying and trying to make ourselves happy in anyway we can and then we will get there bit by bit.  I also discovered meditation before this time, which I believe kept me going and lifted me out of various depressive/anxious states.  I started off very sceptical, however I gave it a go as I was recommended to at the time.  It amazed me in its power to help overcome negativity.

    Anyway I will stop there as I don't want to bore, I can get carried away.  The above point just made me think that there maybe a buddhist centre or something similar to look up.

    It's nice to find someone who can understand how hard it is.  We are definitely not alone in this, I am sure there are lot's more autistic people (and NTs) who find things so hard.

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  • You're welcome, I'm very happy to be of some use.  Apparently it's quite a common thing for autistic people to relate better to animals/nature.  When I was a child I had a cat who was my most favourite being in the whole world.  She always knew when I needed comfort.  I used to do a lot of art too, but stopped a while back for some reason that I am not sure of.  I wish I still did it, but I can't find the urge to somehow.

    I haven't told my parents about being autistic, they wouldn't understand it and would probably just tell me that everyone feels like this.  They operate as part of the NT planet whereas I don't.

    I have been in similar situations before so I know what you mean (well, I don't really but I may have some idea from my experience).  I got made redundant and then tried to work freelance for a year or 2 and failed at that and also failed at other job interviews, and then started volunteering in a different sector- then I got a job after 6 months of volunteering.  I also got out of an abusive relationship during this time, as I had to move back home with my parents and away from my partner.  It was a very hard time for me but I have so many more positive things in my life now, although finding out that I am autistic has been a hard journey for me to go on, I am sure I will feel better as time goes on.  

    I hope you can also see this too, I do honestly believe that we need to keep on trying and trying to make ourselves happy in anyway we can and then we will get there bit by bit.  I also discovered meditation before this time, which I believe kept me going and lifted me out of various depressive/anxious states.  I started off very sceptical, however I gave it a go as I was recommended to at the time.  It amazed me in its power to help overcome negativity.

    Anyway I will stop there as I don't want to bore, I can get carried away.  The above point just made me think that there maybe a buddhist centre or something similar to look up.

    It's nice to find someone who can understand how hard it is.  We are definitely not alone in this, I am sure there are lot's more autistic people (and NTs) who find things so hard.

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