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Having Aspergers and Tourettes is a lonely life

djteknovibe

I've been single 14 years and have no friends in real life, at school I had no friends, at college I didn't have any, when I left school I didn't, when I turned 17 I started doing drugs and started going to raves, the drugs gave me confidence and from 1993-2001 I had friends. But then in 2001 I gave up drugs and my so called mates stopped hanging out with me.

Since 2001 i've not had any real life friends and spent virtually 24/7 on my own. I have two kids aged 14 and 15 who live with their mother and stay 2 nights a week, i'm always happy and smiling, I block out the lonliness like it's not there. But i'm 40 years old now and wonder what I have to do to be worth being friends with or worth being with for girls. I get ignored by 99% of people I message and it makes me fel as though i'm living outside a big dome on my own where everyone else is inside and I feel as though i'm not allowed friends or to be treated decent because of my Aspergers.

When I was doing drugs from 1993-2001 I had friends, well at least I thought they were friends, I was confident so had the courage to talk to girls. Nowadays I go places but always on my own and am near enough sompletely socially isolated. I wonder if i'll be able to ever convince people i'm worth being real life friends with and I wonder if any girls will ever think i'm worth talking to or being their boyfriend.

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    electra said:

    For what its worth it doesn't sound to me like you need any sort of help from mental health teams or to learn social skills. Meeting partners when older is hard for NTs too. I don't have any magic answers. I'm single too and if I had the answer and knew the secret to finding a partner I'd share it.

    I think the OP wants help and is probably open to learning new skills. Autism support groups (NHS or NAS organised) may be able to provide some help. It is unhealthy, in my opinion, to give up and resign yourself to a solitary existence if you don't want that. The NHS assistance comes under the mental health umbrella because social isolation causes mental health issues and there are ways to help.

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    electra said:

    For what its worth it doesn't sound to me like you need any sort of help from mental health teams or to learn social skills. Meeting partners when older is hard for NTs too. I don't have any magic answers. I'm single too and if I had the answer and knew the secret to finding a partner I'd share it.

    I think the OP wants help and is probably open to learning new skills. Autism support groups (NHS or NAS organised) may be able to provide some help. It is unhealthy, in my opinion, to give up and resign yourself to a solitary existence if you don't want that. The NHS assistance comes under the mental health umbrella because social isolation causes mental health issues and there are ways to help.

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