Marriage problems ,husband has Aspergers

Hi, I have just joined this site as i need some advice my husband and 12 yr old son both have Aspergers, son medically diagnosed,  husband not........  i am really struggling to cope with hubbys lack of empathy ,lack of affection and use of hurtful words , he has no filter, and i am really unhappy and feelng very hurt by his comments, and lack of emotion , i understand i cant change this .....but i really want to talk to him about it ...... but feel i will get a negative response ...... any advice as to how i can approach this or word it , i am at the end of my tether and have even conssidered separating. ? , thanks in advance.

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  • My partner is Asperger’s he left me twice in the 6yrs we been together, we have son, house & pets he left us 8months ago but told me to wait he might be back he often goes hot & cold & snaps for no reason, blames a lot on me, I feel like he will come back but his words hurt me sometimes it kills like a knife to the heart, he says he don’t love me no more but he’s trying to build it back & he’s hurting at stuff he has done & said on the past he’s finding it hard to let go but if he comes back we’ve agreed to put the past behind us & start a fresh, he’s been planning days out etc if he comes back so I know he’s trying but somethings holding him back 

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  • My partner is Asperger’s he left me twice in the 6yrs we been together, we have son, house & pets he left us 8months ago but told me to wait he might be back he often goes hot & cold & snaps for no reason, blames a lot on me, I feel like he will come back but his words hurt me sometimes it kills like a knife to the heart, he says he don’t love me no more but he’s trying to build it back & he’s hurting at stuff he has done & said on the past he’s finding it hard to let go but if he comes back we’ve agreed to put the past behind us & start a fresh, he’s been planning days out etc if he comes back so I know he’s trying but somethings holding him back 

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