looking for friends!

Hi David, I like that! I only recently got my diagnosis, and I'm on an incredible new journey to me, now that I know who I am, if that makes sense?

This was one of the (numerous) things that I was always troubled by, but am starting to get to grips with. Interestingly, I was always more troubled by the process than the loss of any particular individual, and yes, I had an opinion of myself that I must be 'just a user' which isn't actually true, I see now.

If it's a personal issue, then me too! If it's a general Aspie issue, I wouldn't know - nobody says. However, I now think it's part of that 'obsessional' thing we do. I meet someone, get intensely involved with and fascinated by them, then when I've 'got' them, I get bored and move on. I'm sure there must be a trail of damage behind me, none of it intentional of course but I think that the intentions don't matter nearly as much as the reality to those involved. For my part, I'm oblivious anyway, but as I say, the 'process' always made me uncomfortable mainly because I couldn't understand it - hence the 'just a user' explanation.

The other explanation I had, because people constantly told me, was that I was a horrible person that nobody liked, so no wonder I couldn't keep a friend. This explanation never held anything that I could identify with, but was always there clouding the issue and apart from causing me to question what it was that made me a horrible person, often became the conclusion to some deep introspection, when no other conclusion presented itself. The anguish I've been through in my life obsessing over this very point! The diagnosis brings clarity with it, and I am grateful.

In broad geographic terms, where are you? I've been looking around for 'Aspie meet-ups' but there seems little opportunity, if any at all.

Hi David, I like that! I only recently got my diagnosis, and I'm on an incredible new journey to me, now that I know who I am, if that makes sense?

This was one of the (numerous) things that I was always troubled by, but am starting to get to grips with. Interestingly, I was always more troubled by the process than the loss of any particular individual, and yes, I had an opinion of myself that I must be 'just a user' which isn't actually true, I see now.

If it's a personal issue, then me too! If it's a general Aspie issue, I wouldn't know - nobody says. However, I now think it's part of that 'obsessional' thing we do. I meet someone, get intensely involved with and fascinated by them, then when I've 'got' them, I get bored and move on. I'm sure there must be a trail of damage behind me, none of it intentional of course but I think that the intentions don't matter nearly as much as the reality to those involved. For my part, I'm oblivious anyway, but as I say, the 'process' always made me uncomfortable mainly because I couldn't understand it - hence the 'just a user' explanation.

The other explanation I had, because people constantly told me, was that I was a horrible person that nobody liked, so no wonder I couldn't keep a friend. This explanation never held anything that I could identify with, but was always there clouding the issue and apart from causing me to question what it was that made me a horrible person, often became the conclusion to some deep introspection, when no other conclusion presented itself. The anguish I've been through in my life obsessing over this very point! The diagnosis brings clarity with it, and I am grateful.

In broad geographic terms, where are you? I've been looking around for 'Aspie meet-ups' but there seems little opportunity, if any at all.