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looking for friends!

davek75

hi all,

well been a while since i was on here last! hope everyopnes ok??

well my life is still on track at the moment... just abit bored and looking to make some friends on here or in person, my life is so lonely!

for those of you that dont know im an aspie sufferer was diagnosed back in the late 80's and early 90's... have not had or been able to maintain friendships very easily i kinda drift from friend to friend... makes me look like a user but in all honesty people just serve a purpose then i kinda lose interest?? is it just me or is that an aspie thing in general??...

anyway guys n girls... have a great day!

if any of you fancy replying feel free and i will get back to you as soon as possible!!!

thanks very much

david :)

  • Hello David,

    I am looking for a friend as well.

    I also find it hard to make friends.

  • I'll be your friend :)

    Since we are talking about what we've been diagnosed with, I was diagnosed with High Functioning Autism at the age of 3. 

  • Hi David

    I recieved my diagnosis last year though in mid 40's

    I too have friends for that purpose and when that purpose is like finished sort of move on. Just happens. Is it an autism thing or does it just happen but like you got that air of using people don't it but I don't think it that. They must be willing to move on too or you wouldn't be loosing contact.

    Willing to be friends on here. (Female). I don't know which part of the country you are in for local friendship. But willing to be epals or whatever they called or something. Social networking on here.

  • Hi David, I like that! I only recently got my diagnosis, and I'm on an incredible new journey to me, now that I know who I am, if that makes sense?

    This was one of the (numerous) things that I was always troubled by, but am starting to get to grips with. Interestingly, I was always more troubled by the process than the loss of any particular individual, and yes, I had an opinion of myself that I must be 'just a user' which isn't actually true, I see now.

    If it's a personal issue, then me too! If it's a general Aspie issue, I wouldn't know - nobody says. However, I now think it's part of that 'obsessional' thing we do. I meet someone, get intensely involved with and fascinated by them, then when I've 'got' them, I get bored and move on. I'm sure there must be a trail of damage behind me, none of it intentional of course but I think that the intentions don't matter nearly as much as the reality to those involved. For my part, I'm oblivious anyway, but as I say, the 'process' always made me uncomfortable mainly because I couldn't understand it - hence the 'just a user' explanation.

    The other explanation I had, because people constantly told me, was that I was a horrible person that nobody liked, so no wonder I couldn't keep a friend. This explanation never held anything that I could identify with, but was always there clouding the issue and apart from causing me to question what it was that made me a horrible person, often became the conclusion to some deep introspection, when no other conclusion presented itself. The anguish I've been through in my life obsessing over this very point! The diagnosis brings clarity with it, and I am grateful.

    In broad geographic terms, where are you? I've been looking around for 'Aspie meet-ups' but there seems little opportunity, if any at all.