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Is my asperger's syndrome holding me back in life?

mark123

This past week ive been very depressed with where I am in life.
Im 28 and I don't have any friends and i've never been in a relationship.

I went on my first date last week and it wasn't too bad but I just found it very hard to talk to the guy. I think it triggered something.
I don't think we're going to meet again, I don't think im going to have much luck with anyone.

I feel like I need friends/someone to talk to more than anything. Im just, very alone. I never leave the house unless its with my family. I feel like i've never lived. 

Feeling this way, I just end up crying about 3 times a day or whenever I think about my life. I don't know what to do.

I just feel like I would have a life im happy with if it wasn't for my AS. 
 

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  • Hi Mark,

     I agree with Longman, you need to be less fatalistic about it.

    For me, I had extremely short lived and rocky relationships and even suffered physically as a result, however, that was prior to my diagnosis.

    Having a diagnosis gives you the heads up about why communication is so difficult and hopefully, if viewed more positively, should allow you to form stratagies for the future. Used wisely, the knowledge of your diagnosis can also help you to keep safe.

    I'm not sure communication online is any more safe than in person, as people may be even more easlily duped, but their remains many ways in which you can try to initiate contact with others and begin to form friendships and Matts suggestion of hobbies is a great start.

    Communication with others on the spectrum is always a great start. When things get tough, reaching out to those who truly understand can be a great comfort. Their is always a listening ear here.

    I think we need some more up to date literature on Relationships and Aspergers. I understand Sarah Hendrickx has written one, but i've not read it. Perhaps others can suggest some good reading material.

    Take care,

    Coogy.

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  • Hi Mark,

     I agree with Longman, you need to be less fatalistic about it.

    For me, I had extremely short lived and rocky relationships and even suffered physically as a result, however, that was prior to my diagnosis.

    Having a diagnosis gives you the heads up about why communication is so difficult and hopefully, if viewed more positively, should allow you to form stratagies for the future. Used wisely, the knowledge of your diagnosis can also help you to keep safe.

    I'm not sure communication online is any more safe than in person, as people may be even more easlily duped, but their remains many ways in which you can try to initiate contact with others and begin to form friendships and Matts suggestion of hobbies is a great start.

    Communication with others on the spectrum is always a great start. When things get tough, reaching out to those who truly understand can be a great comfort. Their is always a listening ear here.

    I think we need some more up to date literature on Relationships and Aspergers. I understand Sarah Hendrickx has written one, but i've not read it. Perhaps others can suggest some good reading material.

    Take care,

    Coogy.

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