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Help and advice. I'm struggling

Sarah2030

my name is Sarah I'm 24 years old  I'm new to this so please bare with me with replies 

I'm in a rut at the moment. After a 3 year battle my son who is 4 years 6 months now has finally been diagnosed with autism. It's gone from me pleading with people to listen to me about my son. To finally having answers. I'm scared and somewhat relieved in a way. I don't even know what to do to help him. I don't really have anyone I can talk to about it. He seems to be getting worse. It's as if he knows he's been diagnosed and it's all coming out Now. 

my main worry at the moment is nighttimes. We have a routine where I read him a story (whilst a 5 minute timer is on) once I've finnished the story and the timer goes off it's time for bed. he ll go to bed but them spend the next 4 hours getting up coming up with excuses for example :

im sad mammy, I have an injury mammy , I need the toilet mammy. The list is endless 

is there any strategies parents have come up with to settle their LO 

i find myself crying most nights feeling rather depressed  it's not just the nighttime is a lot of things. But the nighttime is the main one. He also has a younger brother who is 2 and half  who also wake during the night. 

im literally only getting 1 hour sleep if a nighttime. And don't know what to do. Any help would be absolutely amazing. 

Thank you for taking the time to read this. 

Sarah xx

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    I have to say that Karajan's ideas are not conventional wisdom and I wouldn't go along with turning everything upside down and putting locks on doors - there are fire/safety/child protection issues with locking children in rooms. Just wait until LO tells nursery or school that mummy locks me in a room at night and see what happens!

    What do you do when LO comes to you in the night? Kids don't need stimulation or to be rewarded for coming out of thir rooms at night. You need to check that they are OK and not in real need but otherwise it is good to give them a silent treatment and turn them round, put them back in their bed. And keep doing this repeatedly until they get the idea that it isn't fun anymore. It shouldn't be harsh and brutal but you can make it unrewarding for them. This is the technique shown on the supernanny programs and it was shown on the Born Naughty series about autistic kids on C4 recently.

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    I have to say that Karajan's ideas are not conventional wisdom and I wouldn't go along with turning everything upside down and putting locks on doors - there are fire/safety/child protection issues with locking children in rooms. Just wait until LO tells nursery or school that mummy locks me in a room at night and see what happens!

    What do you do when LO comes to you in the night? Kids don't need stimulation or to be rewarded for coming out of thir rooms at night. You need to check that they are OK and not in real need but otherwise it is good to give them a silent treatment and turn them round, put them back in their bed. And keep doing this repeatedly until they get the idea that it isn't fun anymore. It shouldn't be harsh and brutal but you can make it unrewarding for them. This is the technique shown on the supernanny programs and it was shown on the Born Naughty series about autistic kids on C4 recently.

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