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Help - Please

henry

I hope I don't offend anyone with this thread, but I would really like some help.

My wife and I have an autistic teenager and it is fair to say life has not been easy, however the last couple of years have been very testing. My wife has never had a high libido since the kids were born, but it has come to the pont where we have only had sex 1  or 2 times in the last 2 years. I am a good hard working christian man, who although far from perfect, does try to do all I can to provide. I love my wife dearly but we have such a lack of physical connection I can feel it slipping away. If I try to suggest help, councilling she goes mad and accuses me of being selfish, so it is basically off limits. I know my wife is hormonal and depressed, and tired all the time like many others in our situation. If this is normal behaviour I would accept that and just hope the spark comes back, however I would like to know what other folk out there experiences are in situations like ours. It is really starting to cripple me emotionally, and I do not know what to do. Even with the slightest suggestion of intimacy is rebuffed with an implication I am only after one thing. My wife says she loves me, and I am sure she does, but this is so hard and I cannot see a way forward.

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  • Haven/t you read that some on the spectrum talk about having a sixth sense? I really do seem to sense whether someone is up to no good or not. My NT father taught me a bit whether something was going to be good or not, or if a person has good intentions or bad one. Autistics struggle reading people's facial expressions, and guidance is paramount at an early age, in order to decipher the body language as an child/teen/adult.

    I even dream in colour(sometimes), and have often had premonitions, that come true. Recently I told my partner than Jordan Spieth would win the Masters in 2015 , I her that last year, and again after he won the week before Augusta. I knew Europe would come back and win on the last day of the Ryder Cup. I have dreamt of a fire in  the gear box of a car, the next day there was a fireball on a motorway in England,  and people burnt to death in their car. I can't remember more examples of my sisxth sense, but my partner can.

    Aspies tend to have a strong sense for everything, smell, taste, hearing, touch, eye for details, that's what makes us un-typical. So dont criticise me for being what I am. Thanks.

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  • Haven/t you read that some on the spectrum talk about having a sixth sense? I really do seem to sense whether someone is up to no good or not. My NT father taught me a bit whether something was going to be good or not, or if a person has good intentions or bad one. Autistics struggle reading people's facial expressions, and guidance is paramount at an early age, in order to decipher the body language as an child/teen/adult.

    I even dream in colour(sometimes), and have often had premonitions, that come true. Recently I told my partner than Jordan Spieth would win the Masters in 2015 , I her that last year, and again after he won the week before Augusta. I knew Europe would come back and win on the last day of the Ryder Cup. I have dreamt of a fire in  the gear box of a car, the next day there was a fireball on a motorway in England,  and people burnt to death in their car. I can't remember more examples of my sisxth sense, but my partner can.

    Aspies tend to have a strong sense for everything, smell, taste, hearing, touch, eye for details, that's what makes us un-typical. So dont criticise me for being what I am. Thanks.

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