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Help - Please

henry

I hope I don't offend anyone with this thread, but I would really like some help.

My wife and I have an autistic teenager and it is fair to say life has not been easy, however the last couple of years have been very testing. My wife has never had a high libido since the kids were born, but it has come to the pont where we have only had sex 1  or 2 times in the last 2 years. I am a good hard working christian man, who although far from perfect, does try to do all I can to provide. I love my wife dearly but we have such a lack of physical connection I can feel it slipping away. If I try to suggest help, councilling she goes mad and accuses me of being selfish, so it is basically off limits. I know my wife is hormonal and depressed, and tired all the time like many others in our situation. If this is normal behaviour I would accept that and just hope the spark comes back, however I would like to know what other folk out there experiences are in situations like ours. It is really starting to cripple me emotionally, and I do not know what to do. Even with the slightest suggestion of intimacy is rebuffed with an implication I am only after one thing. My wife says she loves me, and I am sure she does, but this is so hard and I cannot see a way forward.

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    A couple of additional thoughts.

    How disabled is the teenager? If the problem is severe enough then there are benefits available that can pay for additional assistance with care responsibilities. This might ease the burden on your wife.

    You say that the lack of libido dates back to when the children were born. Could this be a case of post natal depression that has never been dealt with?

    I understand the point DavidGolf was making - this isn't necessarily to do with autism but there is an autistic person involved and this type of problem does occur in families with disabled children so I would say it's perfectly reasonable to ask for help here.

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    A couple of additional thoughts.

    How disabled is the teenager? If the problem is severe enough then there are benefits available that can pay for additional assistance with care responsibilities. This might ease the burden on your wife.

    You say that the lack of libido dates back to when the children were born. Could this be a case of post natal depression that has never been dealt with?

    I understand the point DavidGolf was making - this isn't necessarily to do with autism but there is an autistic person involved and this type of problem does occur in families with disabled children so I would say it's perfectly reasonable to ask for help here.

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