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Help - Please

henry

I hope I don't offend anyone with this thread, but I would really like some help.

My wife and I have an autistic teenager and it is fair to say life has not been easy, however the last couple of years have been very testing. My wife has never had a high libido since the kids were born, but it has come to the pont where we have only had sex 1  or 2 times in the last 2 years. I am a good hard working christian man, who although far from perfect, does try to do all I can to provide. I love my wife dearly but we have such a lack of physical connection I can feel it slipping away. If I try to suggest help, councilling she goes mad and accuses me of being selfish, so it is basically off limits. I know my wife is hormonal and depressed, and tired all the time like many others in our situation. If this is normal behaviour I would accept that and just hope the spark comes back, however I would like to know what other folk out there experiences are in situations like ours. It is really starting to cripple me emotionally, and I do not know what to do. Even with the slightest suggestion of intimacy is rebuffed with an implication I am only after one thing. My wife says she loves me, and I am sure she does, but this is so hard and I cannot see a way forward.

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  • Not in a long term relationship myself, but from what I've heard it's normal for sex to become less frequent, and not that unusual for couples to end up not having sex. Especially if there are other pressures. Depending on individual morality there are ways to cope with unequal desires, but it sounds like many of the options would be unavailable to you. You may be left with accepting things as they are and trying to support your wife, so hopefully she will be less stressed.

    May I recomend a book to you?  It's called 'The Year of Living Biblically' by AJ Jacobs. I'm not sure it would help you with your problems, but at best you might find a few points in it of value to you.  At worst it's an entertaining read (and respectful to religious views).

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  • Not in a long term relationship myself, but from what I've heard it's normal for sex to become less frequent, and not that unusual for couples to end up not having sex. Especially if there are other pressures. Depending on individual morality there are ways to cope with unequal desires, but it sounds like many of the options would be unavailable to you. You may be left with accepting things as they are and trying to support your wife, so hopefully she will be less stressed.

    May I recomend a book to you?  It's called 'The Year of Living Biblically' by AJ Jacobs. I'm not sure it would help you with your problems, but at best you might find a few points in it of value to you.  At worst it's an entertaining read (and respectful to religious views).

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