Help - Please

I hope I don't offend anyone with this thread, but I would really like some help.

My wife and I have an autistic teenager and it is fair to say life has not been easy, however the last couple of years have been very testing. My wife has never had a high libido since the kids were born, but it has come to the pont where we have only had sex 1  or 2 times in the last 2 years. I am a good hard working christian man, who although far from perfect, does try to do all I can to provide. I love my wife dearly but we have such a lack of physical connection I can feel it slipping away. If I try to suggest help, councilling she goes mad and accuses me of being selfish, so it is basically off limits. I know my wife is hormonal and depressed, and tired all the time like many others in our situation. If this is normal behaviour I would accept that and just hope the spark comes back, however I would like to know what other folk out there experiences are in situations like ours. It is really starting to cripple me emotionally, and I do not know what to do. Even with the slightest suggestion of intimacy is rebuffed with an implication I am only after one thing. My wife says she loves me, and I am sure she does, but this is so hard and I cannot see a way forward.

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  • Yes, her behaviour is normal.  If she is depressed, hormonal + anxious then sex is going to be the last thing on her mind.  Rather than just hoping for the "spark" to return at some point, I think you need to take a step back from the situation + try to work out how you can help to improve things.  If you could tell us more about your son/family situation then we could perhaps be more helpful.  It would be easy to make presumptions.  For example, I'm wondering if you work long hours + if you wife is at home all day??

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  • Yes, her behaviour is normal.  If she is depressed, hormonal + anxious then sex is going to be the last thing on her mind.  Rather than just hoping for the "spark" to return at some point, I think you need to take a step back from the situation + try to work out how you can help to improve things.  If you could tell us more about your son/family situation then we could perhaps be more helpful.  It would be easy to make presumptions.  For example, I'm wondering if you work long hours + if you wife is at home all day??

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