Help - Please

I hope I don't offend anyone with this thread, but I would really like some help.

My wife and I have an autistic teenager and it is fair to say life has not been easy, however the last couple of years have been very testing. My wife has never had a high libido since the kids were born, but it has come to the pont where we have only had sex 1  or 2 times in the last 2 years. I am a good hard working christian man, who although far from perfect, does try to do all I can to provide. I love my wife dearly but we have such a lack of physical connection I can feel it slipping away. If I try to suggest help, councilling she goes mad and accuses me of being selfish, so it is basically off limits. I know my wife is hormonal and depressed, and tired all the time like many others in our situation. If this is normal behaviour I would accept that and just hope the spark comes back, however I would like to know what other folk out there experiences are in situations like ours. It is really starting to cripple me emotionally, and I do not know what to do. Even with the slightest suggestion of intimacy is rebuffed with an implication I am only after one thing. My wife says she loves me, and I am sure she does, but this is so hard and I cannot see a way forward.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    If you're asking whether someone who is hormonal (do you mean menopausal?) and depressed and is struggling to cope with an autistic daughter is being reasonable then it's the question that doesn't make sense.

    Is there anything you can do to help her with her struggles? Depression is hard to understand until it's happened to you and she won't be able to explain it to you. I would urge you to call sane www.sane.org.uk/.../helpline to see what you can do to help and understand her depression.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    If you're asking whether someone who is hormonal (do you mean menopausal?) and depressed and is struggling to cope with an autistic daughter is being reasonable then it's the question that doesn't make sense.

    Is there anything you can do to help her with her struggles? Depression is hard to understand until it's happened to you and she won't be able to explain it to you. I would urge you to call sane www.sane.org.uk/.../helpline to see what you can do to help and understand her depression.

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