Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all :)
You may have seen a topic i prerviously posted very recently about my boys. Im a mom of 3. I have got my one boy through alot of the process to the point they have said its Autism and ADHD but it hasnt been put on paper as yet as hes yet to see a phsycotherapist and my other son hasnt even got to first screening yet. This in mind, I have so many questions, so please forgive me as no matter what i read it seems so vague. My main question being if this is the case, does my nearly 6 year old son know? is he aware of his autism and ADHD? If not when do they become aware of it? do you tell them or do you not say anything at all ( i wouldnt until it was on paper anyway). Also my one son has alot of hitting, bitting to others and himself, he uses baby talk and grunts, these things sometimes make me wonder is all this behaviour completely his condition OR is some of it just an average nearly 6 year olds behaviour? Im very confused. I know alot of the things he does isnt that of someone his age but say like when hes boundary pushing is that the nearly six year old or is it part of the condition or both? the reason i ask this as im so worried about time out if its something that cant be helped, in fact should i be time outing anyway? Im in a place where im questioning everything he does (not to him like i just think is this his way of saying i cant cope or is it him just being a head strong nearly 6 year old?) , im questioning everything we do like should i time out if his behaviour is unacceptable (but then it might not be his fault and so i dont want him to feel misunderstood). I often wonder if he knows as im scared that he might feel alone or isolated and i really dont want that. I mean he seems happy enough until hes in one of his outbursts but i am a worrier and the thought of them feeling misunderstood for even a second turns my stomach. If theres anyone out there with autism / ADHD or both a point of view and advice from you would be greatly appreciated as i just want to understand and do the best for my boys. My boys havent changed overnight and i would like to think that i know them every inch of the way however if theres anything i can do to understand the way they see the world then that can only benefit them surely? thank you for reading my post, and thank you in advance to anyone that can contribute, it means alot. Best Wishes, Lisa :)
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Why is it electronics rebel at the worst times? I'd be doomed if my black jeans get stuck in the wash, I've been passing them off as chino's because it's the only pair of trousers that remotely fits my school's stuck up 6th Form Dress code. (They'd have us in suits if the head students weren't threatening walkouts, but honestly, have you seen how much cleavage work shirts from Primark show!? I might as well rock up in my bra!)
Maybe you should try hunting down games to keep them occupied when they're stuck at home, I know I've got an actionplan in place if I get snowed in again like last year! (Hot chocolate, milk, mini marshmallows, whipped cream, art supplies, laptop, TV and DVD's, sorted.^^)
Even if its board games they both like or those strangely entertaining education computer games?
OOH! Have you ever heard of hidden object games? I've got one called 'Hidden Expodition: Amazon'. Basically, on each level you have a list of objects that you need to find in this one picture, but its really tricky! My family use it to get all of us kids out of the way. Usually I'm the one with the mouse and everyone just points at where they find the objects! And the hidden objects you need to find change every time, so its never easy. :D