Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all :)
You may have seen a topic i prerviously posted very recently about my boys. Im a mom of 3. I have got my one boy through alot of the process to the point they have said its Autism and ADHD but it hasnt been put on paper as yet as hes yet to see a phsycotherapist and my other son hasnt even got to first screening yet. This in mind, I have so many questions, so please forgive me as no matter what i read it seems so vague. My main question being if this is the case, does my nearly 6 year old son know? is he aware of his autism and ADHD? If not when do they become aware of it? do you tell them or do you not say anything at all ( i wouldnt until it was on paper anyway). Also my one son has alot of hitting, bitting to others and himself, he uses baby talk and grunts, these things sometimes make me wonder is all this behaviour completely his condition OR is some of it just an average nearly 6 year olds behaviour? Im very confused. I know alot of the things he does isnt that of someone his age but say like when hes boundary pushing is that the nearly six year old or is it part of the condition or both? the reason i ask this as im so worried about time out if its something that cant be helped, in fact should i be time outing anyway? Im in a place where im questioning everything he does (not to him like i just think is this his way of saying i cant cope or is it him just being a head strong nearly 6 year old?) , im questioning everything we do like should i time out if his behaviour is unacceptable (but then it might not be his fault and so i dont want him to feel misunderstood). I often wonder if he knows as im scared that he might feel alone or isolated and i really dont want that. I mean he seems happy enough until hes in one of his outbursts but i am a worrier and the thought of them feeling misunderstood for even a second turns my stomach. If theres anyone out there with autism / ADHD or both a point of view and advice from you would be greatly appreciated as i just want to understand and do the best for my boys. My boys havent changed overnight and i would like to think that i know them every inch of the way however if theres anything i can do to understand the way they see the world then that can only benefit them surely? thank you for reading my post, and thank you in advance to anyone that can contribute, it means alot. Best Wishes, Lisa :)
Hiya :)
Hows your weekend going? ours has been going good Callum had a fab birthday! he had lots of prezzies and even went to a firework show :) Today we noticed something else about Callum and we arent sure if its part of his ways or if its the now 6 year old in him... Basically today he had got money in his cards so we took him to Smyths (a local toy store) we walked around and he said.. i just want to go to mothercare??!!! so i said ok then we will. Me and my husband took him and Callum dived under shelving units in the shop.. he got right underneath then crawled back out clutching a police set!!! it turns out that about 7 weeks ago whilst we were purchasing a car seat for my baby Callum had hid this police set under there so that he could buy it one day!!! When i asked Brad when he got home, Bradley had also done this and knew about the situation! I was shocked and it did make me giggle! but Callum used to do alot of what i call 'secret squirrel' behaviour in his younger years like 2/3 by hiding handfuls of sweets and chocolate. For a while after he then used to do it with food he didnt want to eat, and now it seems hes doing it with toys he wants to buy! i was just wondering about it thats all. Oh and also Callum always has big big black bags around his eyes, he looks so so tired but yet has 11 hours sleep! we were just again wondering if this may be linked? Has such a fabulous weekend so far, feeling very happy and positive about the future for my boys :)