Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all :)
You may have seen a topic i prerviously posted very recently about my boys. Im a mom of 3. I have got my one boy through alot of the process to the point they have said its Autism and ADHD but it hasnt been put on paper as yet as hes yet to see a phsycotherapist and my other son hasnt even got to first screening yet. This in mind, I have so many questions, so please forgive me as no matter what i read it seems so vague. My main question being if this is the case, does my nearly 6 year old son know? is he aware of his autism and ADHD? If not when do they become aware of it? do you tell them or do you not say anything at all ( i wouldnt until it was on paper anyway). Also my one son has alot of hitting, bitting to others and himself, he uses baby talk and grunts, these things sometimes make me wonder is all this behaviour completely his condition OR is some of it just an average nearly 6 year olds behaviour? Im very confused. I know alot of the things he does isnt that of someone his age but say like when hes boundary pushing is that the nearly six year old or is it part of the condition or both? the reason i ask this as im so worried about time out if its something that cant be helped, in fact should i be time outing anyway? Im in a place where im questioning everything he does (not to him like i just think is this his way of saying i cant cope or is it him just being a head strong nearly 6 year old?) , im questioning everything we do like should i time out if his behaviour is unacceptable (but then it might not be his fault and so i dont want him to feel misunderstood). I often wonder if he knows as im scared that he might feel alone or isolated and i really dont want that. I mean he seems happy enough until hes in one of his outbursts but i am a worrier and the thought of them feeling misunderstood for even a second turns my stomach. If theres anyone out there with autism / ADHD or both a point of view and advice from you would be greatly appreciated as i just want to understand and do the best for my boys. My boys havent changed overnight and i would like to think that i know them every inch of the way however if theres anything i can do to understand the way they see the world then that can only benefit them surely? thank you for reading my post, and thank you in advance to anyone that can contribute, it means alot. Best Wishes, Lisa :)
Ahhh thank you :) i will tell him tomorrow :) yeah no doubt he will be up at his usual 6am if not earlier! Its good you have the TA to talk to, and im glad that you have now got different homework :) shame on that teacher though for being so nasty! im glad you dont have to sit through the assembleys, i kinda know what you mean about the disappointment thats meant in assemblies, it can get very personal, i disagree with assemblies for that purpose. i expect its easier said then done but you should really see how far youve come, i mean youve got through so much of your life without dagnosis, and achieved alot! So now you are working through the things that make you tick it can only get better, or understandable. So take the highs and the lows but know that after a low at some point there will be a high and that you arent alone with NAS :) Yeah it hit me like a ten ton of bricks if im honest because as a mother it is difficult to accept that your child feels different in a way that i will probably never fully understand. As a mom all you ever want to do is see youre child happy, healthy and safe, but seeing things differently i expect can throw an inbalance at times and that worries me, but we will muddle through :) Brad shakes real bad if he gets stressed. Basically when he was younger we noticed how extremely clean he likes to be ad how upset he got if you ruffled his hair to the point of crying. Brad got some drink on him the one day, he was having a bad day already just seemed a bit off, and he really exploded! he shook so much i thought he was going to pass out, he sweated and his heart felt like it was jumping outta his chest it was awful, he could hardly speakand his eyes looked so scared! i cleaned it off him, but to this day ive never seen him as bad as that and i hopefully never will. But yes he shakes sometimes but not consistently like it doesnt happen daily etc. is there anything that brings comfort to you that maybe doing that can help your anxieties? as i find with me if i have one anxiety it snowballs and it gets bigger and i havent even got an ASD! so im just thinkin that maybe trying to get comfort or safety / security might help make the problem worse then it aalready is? hey i showed them the lamps you were telling me about on you tube they loved them so theyre on the christmas list, brad likes the glittery red ones :)