Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all :)
You may have seen a topic i prerviously posted very recently about my boys. Im a mom of 3. I have got my one boy through alot of the process to the point they have said its Autism and ADHD but it hasnt been put on paper as yet as hes yet to see a phsycotherapist and my other son hasnt even got to first screening yet. This in mind, I have so many questions, so please forgive me as no matter what i read it seems so vague. My main question being if this is the case, does my nearly 6 year old son know? is he aware of his autism and ADHD? If not when do they become aware of it? do you tell them or do you not say anything at all ( i wouldnt until it was on paper anyway). Also my one son has alot of hitting, bitting to others and himself, he uses baby talk and grunts, these things sometimes make me wonder is all this behaviour completely his condition OR is some of it just an average nearly 6 year olds behaviour? Im very confused. I know alot of the things he does isnt that of someone his age but say like when hes boundary pushing is that the nearly six year old or is it part of the condition or both? the reason i ask this as im so worried about time out if its something that cant be helped, in fact should i be time outing anyway? Im in a place where im questioning everything he does (not to him like i just think is this his way of saying i cant cope or is it him just being a head strong nearly 6 year old?) , im questioning everything we do like should i time out if his behaviour is unacceptable (but then it might not be his fault and so i dont want him to feel misunderstood). I often wonder if he knows as im scared that he might feel alone or isolated and i really dont want that. I mean he seems happy enough until hes in one of his outbursts but i am a worrier and the thought of them feeling misunderstood for even a second turns my stomach. If theres anyone out there with autism / ADHD or both a point of view and advice from you would be greatly appreciated as i just want to understand and do the best for my boys. My boys havent changed overnight and i would like to think that i know them every inch of the way however if theres anything i can do to understand the way they see the world then that can only benefit them surely? thank you for reading my post, and thank you in advance to anyone that can contribute, it means alot. Best Wishes, Lisa :)
I speak of my brain as it's own person too, though usually it thinks what I want to say or gives me random bits of information to say when it panics. One time a friend was talking about going to Cardiff University, and for some reason my brain gave me 'sheep'....so I baa'ed XD Luckily she just laughed and tried making me do it again.
I rarely make imitation noises of things anymore, but I can do accents, so far I have a scottish accent, an australian accent and a welsh accent, as well as an on and off south african accent. Though occassionally when I get possessive of food or my things I will growl at people, earning me the nickname 'Wolverine'. Short, vicious when provoked, short sighted and otherwise appears harmless.
Throughout my life I always tended to sort things into worlds. School was one world, home was another. I've tried to avoid doing that since school and home collided in some sort or horrific apocalypse over revision sessions. Only problem was trying to explain my worlds to my mum without sounding silly.
Its kinda sad, I felt like I was always the most grown up in my class, but I loved the childish aspects more, like cuddly toys of animals and imaginary friends (had to say bye to mine at the end of primary, have had to make do with talking to my desk or pencil since, on the pro side, was talking to my desk one day, girl sitting next to me joined in! We've been friends ever since :D).
The SEN teacher suggested the lava lamp because apparently after the inital excitement most of the other kids with ASD settle down and happily stare at it for hours (personally I get excited when a large bit of wax starts heading towards the top of the lava lamp though I can stay in one place ^^) plus you can put it out of reach but in sight, so no chance of little hands breaking it.
I wonder if Brad's into things like CSI and shows like that? Or does he prefer the more documentary shows like British cops: On the frontline? Personally dragons are my main obsession closely followed by bats and shiny stuff. :) Maybe Brad could watch things like Law and Order? From what I know its as acurate as a crime drama can get to real life.
I've managed to develop a sense of humour by watching other people (especially shows like Mock the Week and Michael Macintyre) and eventually settling for the dry humour approach. Turns out saying the dullest thing in a certain way and tone can make people laugh. QI is also good for interesting random information, can't tell you how often I've managed to start or add to a conversation thanks to Steven Fry.
Throughout my GCSE's I got pretty much all A's or A*'s (except P.E, got E in that, thing is I'm pretty certain I didn't even take the exam, and my friends and I just did the can-can throughout the aerobics assessment between falling over), because at home I really didn't have much else to do but homework so I can thank my lack of a social life for that one. The down side though was that because I wasn't struggling academically, my school didn't believe there was anything to be concerned about, even if I did interrogate teachers non stop about every little detail over school trips two weeks in advance for five years.
Good luck to Brad with the appointment and the competition! Got my own appointment (follow up to the diagnosis) tomorrow as well, seems wednesdays are the most conveniant for these people for some reason. Meh, I guess they hate Mondays as much as any other, and Friday would just be too much effort.
Hoping everything goes well for you :)