Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all :)
You may have seen a topic i prerviously posted very recently about my boys. Im a mom of 3. I have got my one boy through alot of the process to the point they have said its Autism and ADHD but it hasnt been put on paper as yet as hes yet to see a phsycotherapist and my other son hasnt even got to first screening yet. This in mind, I have so many questions, so please forgive me as no matter what i read it seems so vague. My main question being if this is the case, does my nearly 6 year old son know? is he aware of his autism and ADHD? If not when do they become aware of it? do you tell them or do you not say anything at all ( i wouldnt until it was on paper anyway). Also my one son has alot of hitting, bitting to others and himself, he uses baby talk and grunts, these things sometimes make me wonder is all this behaviour completely his condition OR is some of it just an average nearly 6 year olds behaviour? Im very confused. I know alot of the things he does isnt that of someone his age but say like when hes boundary pushing is that the nearly six year old or is it part of the condition or both? the reason i ask this as im so worried about time out if its something that cant be helped, in fact should i be time outing anyway? Im in a place where im questioning everything he does (not to him like i just think is this his way of saying i cant cope or is it him just being a head strong nearly 6 year old?) , im questioning everything we do like should i time out if his behaviour is unacceptable (but then it might not be his fault and so i dont want him to feel misunderstood). I often wonder if he knows as im scared that he might feel alone or isolated and i really dont want that. I mean he seems happy enough until hes in one of his outbursts but i am a worrier and the thought of them feeling misunderstood for even a second turns my stomach. If theres anyone out there with autism / ADHD or both a point of view and advice from you would be greatly appreciated as i just want to understand and do the best for my boys. My boys havent changed overnight and i would like to think that i know them every inch of the way however if theres anything i can do to understand the way they see the world then that can only benefit them surely? thank you for reading my post, and thank you in advance to anyone that can contribute, it means alot. Best Wishes, Lisa :)
So envy Brad right now, the only dancing I can do is the can-can (briefly, 30 seconds tops) and gum-boot dancing. xD And I have the gymnastic ability of a boulder, poke me enough and I might eventually roll a bit.
I also struggled with times tables, my 6,7,8 and 12 times tables are my weakest areas, I relied on a pencil with the times tables on it for primary, only downside was I had to learn the 6 times table by the time I'd sharpened it that far.
I think, when you hit your teens you begin to be more aware of other people, what they're doing, what they're talking about, what they like and such, probably part of the instinct to try and blend in or socialise. So maybe your boys will start paying more attention to other peoples opinions, even if it is just to avoid them.
Teachers are also more willing to talk to you. I was advanced in english in year 6 so I ended up learning year 8 things during primary school. It was only when I reached year 9 though before I had a teacher who recognised my talent and the skills of another girl (my best friend) and gave us some GCSE english to do instead. Seriously, I cried for joy at the sight of a metaphor.
It also gets easier because you can explain how you think or feel better, I mean, you learn more sayings, more things you can compare situations to and such. E.g. when I read Of Mice and Men for english I learned more about how other people see and feel friendship, and I can use it as a comparison for my friendships.
Just wondering, do they still make those K'nex toys? I remember when I was little making huge structures like funfair rides or cars out of K'nex or even just snowflakes, I could follow the pictures in the books or make whatever I wanted. Maybe it'd be something else Callum could try once he's old enough? That way he gets to be logical yet creative.
I also think of things in 3D so creating 3D objects was a lot of fun when I was little, still is now in art :) Having something physical to touch and mould into shapes is also comforting in some way, Eliott still plays with that sort of thing too, or at least, he keeps getting those kits for Christmas's and birthdays xD
As for how I'm doing, I've been talking with the SEN teachers at my school and I've found out the best way of getting to sleep, turns out music helps to drown out any sounds that might wake me up in the night and for the movement...
I HAVE A HAMMOCK! XD
It is awesome, it looks like a huge black bananna and when I'm in it I apparently look like a giant vampire bat :) (I love bats).
I've also got a lava lamp and an LED light fountain ( it looks like someones hair when they've been electrocuted and changes colours) to help me calm down before bed, as they catch and keep my attention for ages meaning I can't worry over other things.
Hope you and your boys are doing well :)