Please help I get called names and I don't know what to do

Hello I am 18 years old and in school (nearly finished!! Laughing). I have Asperger's. About 4 weeks ago I saw a boy from my school who is 17 following a 13 year old boy home from school and he was holding a large branch and then he hit the 13 year old over the head with it so I told him to stop and go away and other things, but that is the only time I have ever spoken to him. He then called me names and it upset my brothers who were walking home with me (one of them is autistic too). The boy who called me names started calling me names every time he saw me without me ever talking to him first and I had no idea how to respond as it just made me upset and I have selective mutism so I don't talk a lot at school anyway, but at the same time I thought it was too petty to see a teacher about. Last week he had been calling me names all day that made me really distressed as he was shouting them at me too and I am still so confused as to why he does it. So at the end of the school day he called me a name and I had had enough and I had no idea what else to do about it and it made me so angry that I started punching him in the face. He spat on my face and my brothers were really upset and they argued a lot. He went to our house after about 20 minutes with one of his friends and wouldn't leave and he was threatening my mother and shouting at her and I had to sit with my two youngest brothers and they were so scared which was the most upsetting part. I called the police and they said they warned him and his friend and the police told me not to hit anyone, and that the two boys are not allowed to say anything to me anymore. When he and his friend finally left and stopped harassing my mother she called the school and the school said they'd tell them to stop talking to me as well. But two days after his friend shouted something at me again already!! And the day after he started calling me names again! How am I meant to respond to things like this? I don't talk to them ever and ignoring them doesn't work and nothing works so far, so if anyone can give me advice that would be really helpful and I would be so grateful.

Thank you 

Ruby

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  • Former Member
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    It sounds as though he is not clever and he probably comes from a family where the children are not well behaved and they may not respect the police or other people in society. It isn't your responsibility to fix this - autistic people have a tendency to try and take on things like this but try and step back and let the authorities deal with him. Try not to react because any reaction will probably encourage him to keep doing things. Try not saying anything and don't hit him! Make notes of exactly what happens with dates and times and exactly where you were.

    Have you discussed this with your mother? If you work out a strategy together you will be able to support each other.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    It sounds as though he is not clever and he probably comes from a family where the children are not well behaved and they may not respect the police or other people in society. It isn't your responsibility to fix this - autistic people have a tendency to try and take on things like this but try and step back and let the authorities deal with him. Try not to react because any reaction will probably encourage him to keep doing things. Try not saying anything and don't hit him! Make notes of exactly what happens with dates and times and exactly where you were.

    Have you discussed this with your mother? If you work out a strategy together you will be able to support each other.

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