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Please help I get called names and I don't know what to do

Ruby1

Hello I am 18 years old and in school (nearly finished!! Laughing). I have Asperger's. About 4 weeks ago I saw a boy from my school who is 17 following a 13 year old boy home from school and he was holding a large branch and then he hit the 13 year old over the head with it so I told him to stop and go away and other things, but that is the only time I have ever spoken to him. He then called me names and it upset my brothers who were walking home with me (one of them is autistic too). The boy who called me names started calling me names every time he saw me without me ever talking to him first and I had no idea how to respond as it just made me upset and I have selective mutism so I don't talk a lot at school anyway, but at the same time I thought it was too petty to see a teacher about. Last week he had been calling me names all day that made me really distressed as he was shouting them at me too and I am still so confused as to why he does it. So at the end of the school day he called me a name and I had had enough and I had no idea what else to do about it and it made me so angry that I started punching him in the face. He spat on my face and my brothers were really upset and they argued a lot. He went to our house after about 20 minutes with one of his friends and wouldn't leave and he was threatening my mother and shouting at her and I had to sit with my two youngest brothers and they were so scared which was the most upsetting part. I called the police and they said they warned him and his friend and the police told me not to hit anyone, and that the two boys are not allowed to say anything to me anymore. When he and his friend finally left and stopped harassing my mother she called the school and the school said they'd tell them to stop talking to me as well. But two days after his friend shouted something at me again already!! And the day after he started calling me names again! How am I meant to respond to things like this? I don't talk to them ever and ignoring them doesn't work and nothing works so far, so if anyone can give me advice that would be really helpful and I would be so grateful.

Thank you 

Ruby

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  • Hello Atypical. Yes I did but the boy who got hit with the branch is too scared of the 17 year old to say that he did it even though at least 4 people saw it. I hope he changes his mind.

    I'm paranoid about him turning up at my house again, since the police told him not to call me names or go to my house again but he is already calling me names again. I feel really uncomfortable at school all the time in case he walks past me so I try to avoid him all the time and I don't know how to respond when I am called something disgusting, because why is he allowed to behave like that? I don't know what the appropriate response is when someone calls me a name. I think he must have problems because I had never talked to him before and now he is denying that he did anything and saying I provoked him all the time which is also confusing as I don't know why someone would lie so much as well.

    Also what's upsetting me is that his girlfriend told my friend that she knew someone with a cousin with autism or something really vague like that who lied a lot, and she said therefore I must be lying about his name-calling and spitting on my face and turning up at my house  because I am also on the spectrum. Ignorance like that about autism is just really shocking and distressing, especially as I am one of five children, and three of us are autistic, but we're all completely different children.

    Thank you very much for replying to this, it's made me feel a lot better. Smile

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  • Hello Atypical. Yes I did but the boy who got hit with the branch is too scared of the 17 year old to say that he did it even though at least 4 people saw it. I hope he changes his mind.

    I'm paranoid about him turning up at my house again, since the police told him not to call me names or go to my house again but he is already calling me names again. I feel really uncomfortable at school all the time in case he walks past me so I try to avoid him all the time and I don't know how to respond when I am called something disgusting, because why is he allowed to behave like that? I don't know what the appropriate response is when someone calls me a name. I think he must have problems because I had never talked to him before and now he is denying that he did anything and saying I provoked him all the time which is also confusing as I don't know why someone would lie so much as well.

    Also what's upsetting me is that his girlfriend told my friend that she knew someone with a cousin with autism or something really vague like that who lied a lot, and she said therefore I must be lying about his name-calling and spitting on my face and turning up at my house  because I am also on the spectrum. Ignorance like that about autism is just really shocking and distressing, especially as I am one of five children, and three of us are autistic, but we're all completely different children.

    Thank you very much for replying to this, it's made me feel a lot better. Smile

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