Published on 12, July, 2020
Good Evening everyone,
I have recently been at the GP with my 3 n 1/2 year old son. The GP has said he believe my son to be on the spectrum, leaving me to enter into a new world completely blind.
This has come about because my son physically attacks me and has soo much aggression towards me but at the same time can be soo clingy and loving. It gets very confusing as to why he does this when there is no obvious reason for his actions. Since the GP tol me this I have researched alot and my son is getting alot worse day by day and i am really struggling as a single mum with limited support. I feel my son is changing far too quick and any stratagy i try is just infuriating him more.
I completed a criteria checklist for PDA a my son scored 66 which is extremely high at this point. I am alone in this at the moment as the GP has tried to get CAMHS to see him but they refused despite te fact the GP said my son is the worse he has seen in his entire career for aggression towards me for no apparent reason.
Anyway I have rambled enough now I just dont know what to feel, how i should be parenting him or literally anything now I just feel so helpless for my little one as he must feel so mixed up in his own young mind.
Agree and support everything NLM and Crystal have said. Can I add a message about being consistent? One thing I eventually learned as a parent (I'm the aspie in the family, my kids don't have problems like me) was to be quite careful before saying yes or no to a child's requests. If you say yes on one occasion then you may have to say yes on the next occasion as he may get confused/upset/angry if the "rules" keep changing. Also, only say no if you are prepared to follow through and hold your line. One of the worst things is to say no and then change your mind - he will get confused and will also get the message that if he makes enough fuss then you are in the habit of giving in.