Published on 12, July, 2020
Good Evening everyone,
I have recently been at the GP with my 3 n 1/2 year old son. The GP has said he believe my son to be on the spectrum, leaving me to enter into a new world completely blind.
This has come about because my son physically attacks me and has soo much aggression towards me but at the same time can be soo clingy and loving. It gets very confusing as to why he does this when there is no obvious reason for his actions. Since the GP tol me this I have researched alot and my son is getting alot worse day by day and i am really struggling as a single mum with limited support. I feel my son is changing far too quick and any stratagy i try is just infuriating him more.
I completed a criteria checklist for PDA a my son scored 66 which is extremely high at this point. I am alone in this at the moment as the GP has tried to get CAMHS to see him but they refused despite te fact the GP said my son is the worse he has seen in his entire career for aggression towards me for no apparent reason.
Anyway I have rambled enough now I just dont know what to feel, how i should be parenting him or literally anything now I just feel so helpless for my little one as he must feel so mixed up in his own young mind.
Jsust a suggestion for you to consider. You are trying your very best + sound like a good mum to your little 1. Sometimes it's worth going at a slower pace, observing if poss what causes the triggers : changes in routine, sensory issues such as certain noises, smells, lights, tastes, textures? Anxiety/tension at nursery can be bottled up whilst he's there + then let out in the safety of his own home. A lot of establishments don't understand autism, altho some say they do. My son responds well to a slower way of doing things. He has loads of routines from the moment he wakes up till the moment he goes to bed. Little things that he likes doing, such as what order things are done in,folding his clothes acertain way, what time he has breakfast etc. So try not to be in a rush (I'm not saying you are). Simplify things, keep to a routine each day that he understands, check how good the nursery really are.