Worried about the future

'When Fraser Met Billy' is a true story, so I hope would be more useful than fiction.

If you like reading fiction though there's one called 'Speed of Dark'.  I liked it better than 'Curious Incident' but maybe that's just me.  I like Science Fiction, and Speed of Dark has a small SF element and some ideas to really think about.  The main character is an independant adult too.

On pets, if you did get one you'd need to get one that your son wanted if it was a small pet or they can be boring! If he's only 3 I guess he's too young to choose something. In my teens I kept and bred gerbils: I'm interested in colour genetics! If I got fish I'd want to get several in a tank: they are more interesting if you can watch them interact and swim in shoals I think. Guinea pigs can be a good indoor pet, but you must get more than one as they need company of their own kind, and they need fresh veg/vitamin c. We had them as kids: they are placid and rarely bite.

Thank you I did read the curious incident of the dog in the night was a brilliant read although about a boy with aspergers but loved it I did think about getting a pet but my instant thought was a gold fish but then had this image of my son getting it and taking it out would really be the only pet we could get we live on the 3rd floor wouldn't like to get a dog or cat without them being able to other roam freely thanks though will look it up 

Hi, if you want to read about another parent's experiences, I just read a really good book.  It's called 'When Fraser Met Billy'.  It's about an autistic boy and his cat, written by his mum.

To be clear, I don't think getting a cat would solve everything for everyone, but I think there's things you can get from it besides that idea! It shows how bad things can be and how they can get better.  It's especially nice if you like cats of course!

I'm not a parent, but I think it would be a good book for a parent to read.

Thanks crystal it's just nice to come on here and not be judged as a mum I always feel like I've got to be ten steps ahead of others ready to say something to me ive also learnt to bite my tounge  too because if I said what I truly feel I'd probably still be in the wrong but yet I'm his mum im the one who deals with everything on a daily basis and others don't see that they only see him for a few hours they don't have to deal with the meltdowns x 

Hi, anxiety/stress can be par for the course.  If you've got other worries then it gets worse.  Socks makes good points, glad you've cheered up a bit after reading the post .  It's a comfort knowing this site is here.  Also useful to learn loads via the posts + home pg links.  I think information is power.  I also think knowing that can help us not to get over-anxious. 

Thanks socks that means alot i think id be a bit lost if i didnt come on here just knowing there is so many on here that gives straight forward honset advise some of the sites gets a bit much sometimes think its time to come of some of them but this one i know ill get the advise from people like yourself and perarents who have gone trough or going through the same problems ive got alot going on at moment in other parts of my life with friends amd family isurpose im just trying to make sense of everything 

Hi NLM

It is obvious, from your posts, that you care deeply about your son. You are doing everything you can for him and I hope and expect that this gives you some peace and satisfaction. Hold on to the things you and he have achieved already and keep it up. :-)

The forum does get a bit depressing as it shows a never ending stream of people with problems. There are lots of people out in the rest of the country who are not having to come to the forum to get their problems solved so you don't get a very balanced picture.

The future is always going to be a mystery and there are few guarantees. Some good things will happen and some bad things will happen. Celebrate the good things and try and learn from the bad things.

Take care

'socks