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'My sons looking at independent living, who should I ask for help?'

Coogybear

Came home from a morning appointment to find my son had neglected to eat, both last night and this morning.

He's talking about living independantly, (although it's more disscussion right now) but I'm not sure he will cope without help. He has little realization in what's involved, he cannot pay bills himself, budget, remember to take meds, remember to eat and has difficulty getting himself up, etc etc. He's still quite young, so i'm not sure if he's entittled to help and if so, who to ask.

This is a newly contemplated phase of his life for us and not one we've experience in.

Any suggestions or guidence?

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  • Past experience suggests to me, to go along with it to the extent of letting him find somewhere, and also work out how he would pay the rent and support himself. He may surprise you. If he can do all that, maybe he is more ready than he appears.

    If you try and talk him out of it, he may be offended that you think he cannot mannage or resentful that you are standing in his way. Practicality of financing it and feeding himself, may put him off, without you having to say a discouraging word.

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  • Past experience suggests to me, to go along with it to the extent of letting him find somewhere, and also work out how he would pay the rent and support himself. He may surprise you. If he can do all that, maybe he is more ready than he appears.

    If you try and talk him out of it, he may be offended that you think he cannot mannage or resentful that you are standing in his way. Practicality of financing it and feeding himself, may put him off, without you having to say a discouraging word.

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