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Vulnerability

Coogybear

Pretty tough couple of days with one of my boys. I've always realized his vulnerability with regard to his poor money management, but I've never associate his difficulties with the potential impact on others, Despite being aware of his issues. I'm always shocked when I learn something new, which should have been so obvious.

Disappointed with myself and disappointed with him. Not sure where to turn…

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  • You could perhaps back up the learning process, by making sure that there are some painful consequences for him. Education is good, but if the bank of mum and/or dad actually takes the hit, then it means nothing to him personally.

    Someone told me recently, that their nt child took a long time to learn that they had to put moneyinto an account in order to withdraw from a cash machine. It may be your budgeting and finances that he is unable to understand. If you can always eke out the money, and cover his mistakes, then he may think it is ok.

    He may think that the budgeting training is something for the future, when he is independant. Right now, if he always has a roof over his head and warmth and food, all his needs are being met, and he is not independant. (I obviously do not know your personal arrangements, the last sentence is more of a metaphore for life than intended litterally.)

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  • You could perhaps back up the learning process, by making sure that there are some painful consequences for him. Education is good, but if the bank of mum and/or dad actually takes the hit, then it means nothing to him personally.

    Someone told me recently, that their nt child took a long time to learn that they had to put moneyinto an account in order to withdraw from a cash machine. It may be your budgeting and finances that he is unable to understand. If you can always eke out the money, and cover his mistakes, then he may think it is ok.

    He may think that the budgeting training is something for the future, when he is independant. Right now, if he always has a roof over his head and warmth and food, all his needs are being met, and he is not independant. (I obviously do not know your personal arrangements, the last sentence is more of a metaphore for life than intended litterally.)

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