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Vulnerability

Coogybear

Pretty tough couple of days with one of my boys. I've always realized his vulnerability with regard to his poor money management, but I've never associate his difficulties with the potential impact on others, Despite being aware of his issues. I'm always shocked when I learn something new, which should have been so obvious.

Disappointed with myself and disappointed with him. Not sure where to turn…

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  • He spent money that he knew was set aside for something else, because he's found a new 'friend.' 

    He's so in awe when someone dains to call him a 'friend' that he gets caught up in the moment and becomes over generous with his money to his own detriment. It's frivolous stuff too. Burgers etc. I guess I should be grateful in many respects, it could be worse, but he has no concept of value and no memory of what he's spent it on.

    This means he has to borrow money to live, with no means of paying it back in a timely manner and others have to go without. Very stressful, very distressng, but a common problem of those on the spectrum who cannot see that 'friends' take advantage in the worst possible way.

    I'm going to have to take his card away I think. Remove the temptation and the ability for these 'friends' to bleed him dry :( I'm so stressed by it all, I truely want him to gain more independance, but it's getting tougher by the day.

    :(

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  • He spent money that he knew was set aside for something else, because he's found a new 'friend.' 

    He's so in awe when someone dains to call him a 'friend' that he gets caught up in the moment and becomes over generous with his money to his own detriment. It's frivolous stuff too. Burgers etc. I guess I should be grateful in many respects, it could be worse, but he has no concept of value and no memory of what he's spent it on.

    This means he has to borrow money to live, with no means of paying it back in a timely manner and others have to go without. Very stressful, very distressng, but a common problem of those on the spectrum who cannot see that 'friends' take advantage in the worst possible way.

    I'm going to have to take his card away I think. Remove the temptation and the ability for these 'friends' to bleed him dry :( I'm so stressed by it all, I truely want him to gain more independance, but it's getting tougher by the day.

    :(

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