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To some extent, he is just being a typical teenager. All teens are bolshy, argumentative, and push their boundaries. I used to argue with my two at that age. You have to let some things go. They are budding adults who want to make their own decissions. This means they are not easy to live with.

I had a few limits that could not be crossed under any circumstances, but after that I ignored a lot.

However, this is down to personalities and the mood of the moment. Unless you are some kind of a saint, he is going to get to you, and sometimes, you will react.

I am inclined to think that this is educational for your son. If he realises that people get annoyed and angry, he will learn not to do it. If he annoys you, and you get angry, he will learn that his behaviour has effects and he can then sort it out and recover the situation later. He may need to learn to recognise this situation. It is not always obvious to people with asd, where they are going wrong. You may need to explain in more detail, why you were annoyed. If he has to learn this away from home, then his relationships with in the outside world can get permanently damaged. I suppose the key is to find that moment when he becomes unreasonable, and refuse to actually let the situation develop into a general row, and walk away, saying we must discuss this later when WE are all calmer. If only human beings were good at this, then the world would be a happier place, but we are human and it is hard to achieve.

Good luck

To some extent, he is just being a typical teenager. All teens are bolshy, argumentative, and push their boundaries. I used to argue with my two at that age. You have to let some things go. They are budding adults who want to make their own decissions. This means they are not easy to live with.

I had a few limits that could not be crossed under any circumstances, but after that I ignored a lot.

However, this is down to personalities and the mood of the moment. Unless you are some kind of a saint, he is going to get to you, and sometimes, you will react.

I am inclined to think that this is educational for your son. If he realises that people get annoyed and angry, he will learn not to do it. If he annoys you, and you get angry, he will learn that his behaviour has effects and he can then sort it out and recover the situation later. He may need to learn to recognise this situation. It is not always obvious to people with asd, where they are going wrong. You may need to explain in more detail, why you were annoyed. If he has to learn this away from home, then his relationships with in the outside world can get permanently damaged. I suppose the key is to find that moment when he becomes unreasonable, and refuse to actually let the situation develop into a general row, and walk away, saying we must discuss this later when WE are all calmer. If only human beings were good at this, then the world would be a happier place, but we are human and it is hard to achieve.

Good luck