Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi,
Im not really sure where to start, i have been married to my Hubby for 21 years and love him dearly but can't say it has always been easy and always thought he had a few problems laying undiagnosed. throughout our relashionship i have felt very much on my own he has always had problems with emotion any on more occassions than i care to recollect left me feeling very on my own unloved and questioning what the hell have i been doing with my life, finally at the end of my tether and some gentle pursuasion i got him to see a doctor and a few specialists later he has been diagnosed with Aspergers and borderline ADD which is no surprise to me.
My question to anyone who can help is how do i support and help him as the way he is is obviusly not his fault and i love him no less now than the day i married him im just not sure i can cope much more as i myself have a serious health issue that i could do with his support on right now but obviously he does not understand this.
sorry so long winded, im just so desperate to make sense of it all. can i add i have a 16 year old Nephew with Aspergers so have quite an understanding of the condition
thanks and appreciation in advance
Long winded? You obviously haven't seen my posts then! lol
I find what's best for me is just knowing there is someone there. Trust is a big thing for people on the autism spectrum. My partner gives me space and just says if you need me I'm here. He doesn't try and fix me, like my ex did. he was always saying, what can I do to help, what can I do to get you better. This is who I am and this is the way I will always be. I'm not broken, so don't try and fix me.
I'm a poet and I didn't know it.