I thought years ago, he may have dysprxia and suggested it. He said even if he did, he hates change and so wouldn't want to do anything about it. Then my Dr said i was on the aspergers spectrum, and i knew it was genetic and thought more bits fitted with my dad. i also have adult ADHD, and bits of that fit with him too. He thinks if he got diagnosed, he would have to start loving people and being all sociable, i think. He hates people and everything is existential/deep. which can be exhausting for me. I am a girl, and so am not offended by the trivialities of television.
I live in a small house, so it's very hard to avoid his negativity e.t.c, especially as christmas is meant to bring families together. He can be very kind and supportive and the nicest dad. But sometimes swings from empathy/ to lack of empathy and is very tough on me. I end up being majorly tense/have meltdowns/and exhaustion. If he won't go for a diagnosis, i need to find ways of how to cope/ways to help him cope when he is being like this as it ruins me and times when i'm meant to be relaxing. He seems to have the need to be hard on himself and won't relax/do his hobbies and drinks a bit of whisky for a quick relax. he is a mixture i think of aspergers and adult ADHD, as he can be really funny/ reckless for want of a better word.
I thought years ago, he may have dysprxia and suggested it. He said even if he did, he hates change and so wouldn't want to do anything about it. Then my Dr said i was on the aspergers spectrum, and i knew it was genetic and thought more bits fitted with my dad. i also have adult ADHD, and bits of that fit with him too. He thinks if he got diagnosed, he would have to start loving people and being all sociable, i think. He hates people and everything is existential/deep. which can be exhausting for me. I am a girl, and so am not offended by the trivialities of television.
I live in a small house, so it's very hard to avoid his negativity e.t.c, especially as christmas is meant to bring families together. He can be very kind and supportive and the nicest dad. But sometimes swings from empathy/ to lack of empathy and is very tough on me. I end up being majorly tense/have meltdowns/and exhaustion. If he won't go for a diagnosis, i need to find ways of how to cope/ways to help him cope when he is being like this as it ruins me and times when i'm meant to be relaxing. He seems to have the need to be hard on himself and won't relax/do his hobbies and drinks a bit of whisky for a quick relax. he is a mixture i think of aspergers and adult ADHD, as he can be really funny/ reckless for want of a better word.
