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kworcs

Hi

Im new to all this I have been told by the school that my son aged 8 is showing mild signs of autism, and is on the referral list to be diagnosed, but unsure how long this will take.

I am not coping very well with the behaviour problems that seem to be getting worse, I have experienced 3 situations last week that I have just not known how to handle and am lookng for any adivice please.

The 1st was when my daughter gave birth to her daughter my on visiting her in hospital my son was shaking he was that frightened t go in the hospital and got hisself so worked up about it i had to leave hm outside with a family member.

The 2nd was in Asda when I tried to have a cup of coffee in the cafe my son was so worked up because of the noises and smells he was screaming frantically to get him out of there.

The 3rd was on a visit to a church service my son had said straight away on me telling him that he didnt want to go as there would be bells going off i tried to overcome this with talking to him and telling him not necessarily but as we approached the church the bells went off and that was the end of our church visit he was screaming and crying that he couldn't go in there.

My son is also very much into routine which although is hard i seem to be getting through that but seem so useless when it comes to the other situations and do not know how to handle them.

Glad of any advise thanks Kay

 

 

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  • Yeah unfortunately they don't grow out of these things, sometimes the routines and behaviour change slightly. We avoid crowded places when Callum is with us, we do keep trying to take Callum places he doesn't like just to try - up until very recently Callum refused to stay in a church and would kick off the minute we went inside one but we kept trying (at harvest festival, Xmas etc) and he stayed for the whole of this years harvest festival, didn't take part and sat we me looking at books and playing but it is a step forward. So you never know when they will surprise you. Another idea is if you are going shopping or to a cafe etc not only have him wear ear defenders (callum loves his) but take a DS with him, it will allow him to focus directly on one thing and will distract him from the surrounding environment

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  • Yeah unfortunately they don't grow out of these things, sometimes the routines and behaviour change slightly. We avoid crowded places when Callum is with us, we do keep trying to take Callum places he doesn't like just to try - up until very recently Callum refused to stay in a church and would kick off the minute we went inside one but we kept trying (at harvest festival, Xmas etc) and he stayed for the whole of this years harvest festival, didn't take part and sat we me looking at books and playing but it is a step forward. So you never know when they will surprise you. Another idea is if you are going shopping or to a cafe etc not only have him wear ear defenders (callum loves his) but take a DS with him, it will allow him to focus directly on one thing and will distract him from the surrounding environment

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