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kworcs

Hi

Im new to all this I have been told by the school that my son aged 8 is showing mild signs of autism, and is on the referral list to be diagnosed, but unsure how long this will take.

I am not coping very well with the behaviour problems that seem to be getting worse, I have experienced 3 situations last week that I have just not known how to handle and am lookng for any adivice please.

The 1st was when my daughter gave birth to her daughter my on visiting her in hospital my son was shaking he was that frightened t go in the hospital and got hisself so worked up about it i had to leave hm outside with a family member.

The 2nd was in Asda when I tried to have a cup of coffee in the cafe my son was so worked up because of the noises and smells he was screaming frantically to get him out of there.

The 3rd was on a visit to a church service my son had said straight away on me telling him that he didnt want to go as there would be bells going off i tried to overcome this with talking to him and telling him not necessarily but as we approached the church the bells went off and that was the end of our church visit he was screaming and crying that he couldn't go in there.

My son is also very much into routine which although is hard i seem to be getting through that but seem so useless when it comes to the other situations and do not know how to handle them.

Glad of any advise thanks Kay

 

 

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  • newbie too

    hi there yes i totally agree that explaining things to your son and dont give him too much info in one go they cannot take on board too much info in one go.but do this wherever you go.our life has been like that for years we hoped james would grow out of it but seems to get worse if in a cafe if its too busy its a no go area give him a choice ask him where he wants to sit or ask him how you could make his life easier,eg;how could you help. james is twelve but somtimes its as if we talkto him like a baby but we understand now that our lives revolve around james and not the other way round it does make our lives a lot easier. but we learn by our mistakes with james and no we canot make james do things or go places he just doesnt like to go.sometimes we just try and let james no and reasure him that he is safe and nothink is going to happen to him he still walks around holding my hand then he feels safe.

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  • newbie too

    hi there yes i totally agree that explaining things to your son and dont give him too much info in one go they cannot take on board too much info in one go.but do this wherever you go.our life has been like that for years we hoped james would grow out of it but seems to get worse if in a cafe if its too busy its a no go area give him a choice ask him where he wants to sit or ask him how you could make his life easier,eg;how could you help. james is twelve but somtimes its as if we talkto him like a baby but we understand now that our lives revolve around james and not the other way round it does make our lives a lot easier. but we learn by our mistakes with james and no we canot make james do things or go places he just doesnt like to go.sometimes we just try and let james no and reasure him that he is safe and nothink is going to happen to him he still walks around holding my hand then he feels safe.

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