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Son has become a victim yet again

Coogybear

Just before Christmas he's fallen victim, yet again, to a Mate Crime. Truly gutted for him. He had plans for the money and has wasted time and effort helping this so called ‘friend’ in a job and despite repeated promises has been stiffed for the money. In fact, he's now severely out of pocket. I warned him not to carry on, when the guy failed to pay him on the first day, but he felt sure nothing was afoot. How do these people sleep at night? It hurts me so much to witness his pain…

  • I thought the same thing in the autumn, when i had some of my property stollen. It's left me out of pocket, and i get no benefits. I was really upset and thought how can they sleep at night. It's taken me months to get over it. I got angry because people don't know me and the people that stole my stuff, probably thought that they were so hard done by in society and were entitled to do this to people, which they weren't. e.t.c

  • it a shame this had to happen to your son, from the worse source too.

    I once asked someone why they treated me the way they did when we were younger- he looked guilty and didnt want to admit that he had been capable of being part of the crowd, a bully, he wanted to see himself as a good person as they all do- he looked at me as i calmly spoke to him about it and he said simply before changing the subject- "Because it was easy".

    This took me aback, and i repeated it to him, he looked away and didnt want to say anymore (couldnt face his own reflection really), and he just said again in a quiet voice, "Yeah, because it was easy. Sorry man."

    These people sleep very soundly, as they have gotten what they want with little to no trouble, its not their problem. They wont even give it a second thought except when it comes to bragging. Sorry to say. Dont waste your time worrying about their conscience, only thing thats worthwhile is being there for your son and helping him get through this and understand what happened so doesnt happen again in future or is less likely to.

    Sometimes i wish i had a little radio in my ear so somone could tell me what to say and how to act when round people (like they do in Dating programs or Prank programs)- so i knew what to say and had the confidence to do so. Unfortunately this is not the way. Ive learned to shut away from people and not let them get too close and try to be aware of the signs, either by listening to advice others tell me or things i have read.

    It will hurt for the moment, but your son will pull through this, hopefully a wiser person.