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how do i deal with my dads advise

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hi guys my son who is 2 n half was last week diagnosed with high functining autism and the one person i knew who would find it hard to accept is my dad i love my dad dearly last week he phones me and says his been on the internet and read up on autism wich shocked me and i though ok his accepted this but then last night i get a phone call telling me that his bern online agaon and there is a dr that cured a child with autism and the child had gluten allergies and its made my dad feel beter and i now need to change my sons diet i tried to explain to my dad that there is no cure my son has this for the rest of his life dad then says i need to get my son have a blood test because i dont know untill i get it done tried saying if my son has food allergies i would have known by now and im not putting my son who already has a fear of the drs for a blood test i know my dad means well but im now worried his going to say his found a private clinc that can help as his already mentioned this please i really need help and advise on how to deal with my dad without upsetting him 

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  • Hi - your dad's having trouble accepting his grandson's diagnosis so is looking on line to find "cures" or ways to ameliorate the condition.  A little knowledge can be a dangerous thing.  He is alerting you to info which fits in with his views.  You've already said it doesn't seem that your son has digestive problems + you are in touch with a dietician.    Adjusting to a diagnosis can be difficult for family members, even if they're expecting it. It can be distressing when a loved one and/or friend can't really adjust.  We learn a lot about ourselves and our families/friends at times like these. People adjust at their own pace + in their own way.  Have you talked to your dad about how you can all adjust to your son being autistic in a mutually supportive way?   He is trying his best to be helpful I think, altho  I personally would find the talk of cures hurtful.

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  • Hi - your dad's having trouble accepting his grandson's diagnosis so is looking on line to find "cures" or ways to ameliorate the condition.  A little knowledge can be a dangerous thing.  He is alerting you to info which fits in with his views.  You've already said it doesn't seem that your son has digestive problems + you are in touch with a dietician.    Adjusting to a diagnosis can be difficult for family members, even if they're expecting it. It can be distressing when a loved one and/or friend can't really adjust.  We learn a lot about ourselves and our families/friends at times like these. People adjust at their own pace + in their own way.  Have you talked to your dad about how you can all adjust to your son being autistic in a mutually supportive way?   He is trying his best to be helpful I think, altho  I personally would find the talk of cures hurtful.

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