Hi..newbie and need advice?

Hi , my name is david and I would like to know if you can help me? I have now been diagnosed as autistc  I have been working for a charity as an advisor. I spoke to my boss on Thursday night about something that I felt was important about one of our clients who I met outside of work, but I called her at home. She was very rude and when I got to work the next morning was called into the office. She told me that 'I had gone so far beyond the line that I didn't even know where the line was'. She knows about my condition and says that she totally gets me but that she is 'not my counsellor, friend or my mum....I am your boss!' . She told me that I was selfish and that when I have something that I feel is important I don't care about other people. This is not the case, when I have things in my head that I can't get rid of it is like a pressure cooker and I then explode, usually at the end of the day. She offered two options, either I could return my keys and leave or I could stay and work within her strict boundaries. I feel very upset and confused and don't know what to do? I don't want to go out anymore or speak to anyone in case I cross boundaries that I shouldn't be and upset someone? I have no support network or anyone to contact to address my concerns ...David Undecided

 


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    Former Member

    Hi,

    I'm reading "Dealing with the boss from hell" by Shaun Belding. When I got into it I found that it is mainly about how to behave at work rather than how to beat your boss in an adversarial way. The book also deals with identifying rogue bosses but most often they are just out of their depth and desperate to get the job done but have no clue about how to take an awkward employee and make them productive. I've struggled with dealing with managers over the years and am now just discovering what the rules of work are really all about. Aspies often have issues with bosses who just expect us to JFDI with their daft or ambiguous edicts. Learning what they expect seems like a useful thing to study.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Hi,

    I'm reading "Dealing with the boss from hell" by Shaun Belding. When I got into it I found that it is mainly about how to behave at work rather than how to beat your boss in an adversarial way. The book also deals with identifying rogue bosses but most often they are just out of their depth and desperate to get the job done but have no clue about how to take an awkward employee and make them productive. I've struggled with dealing with managers over the years and am now just discovering what the rules of work are really all about. Aspies often have issues with bosses who just expect us to JFDI with their daft or ambiguous edicts. Learning what they expect seems like a useful thing to study.

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