hi
im nearly 40 years old, i have aspergers and have spent most of my life alone! those that have the pleasure of my company for a short while, say im an amazing guy, kind, gentle, loving, and very honest and open... but for some strange reason i just cant stay friends??? is it my autism?? is it me?? WHY DO I FIND IT SO DIFFICULT TO KEEP FRIENDSHIPS???? HELP!!! :(
davek75 said:"hi how are you?" i then give them the long story of my life in return and then blurt out this.. " oh by the way you drive a red car, and your reg number is blah blah blah!!" they find this extremely odd and if not a little stalkerish!
As longman said, people don't want the story of your life. People want to know that you are well and a few interesting events. You have to stop yourself before you get too carried away. You then need to reciprocate by asking them about themselves. You have to genuinely be as interested in their story as you are engrossed in your own life story. A conversation is a two way exchange of tidbits of information. Try and relate the things you say to the last thing that the other person says, Don't go off at a tangent, do try and link things together. I honestly don't know when you could bring number plates into a conversation! If you are asked about your hobbies you could mention it in passing but it won't spark much of a conversational thread.
if you don't show an interest in the other person's story then they won't find your company very rewarding.
Is there an adult NAS group or NHS autism support group that you could join? Perhaps you could get some face to face practice and training there?
davek75 said:"hi how are you?" i then give them the long story of my life in return and then blurt out this.. " oh by the way you drive a red car, and your reg number is blah blah blah!!" they find this extremely odd and if not a little stalkerish!
As longman said, people don't want the story of your life. People want to know that you are well and a few interesting events. You have to stop yourself before you get too carried away. You then need to reciprocate by asking them about themselves. You have to genuinely be as interested in their story as you are engrossed in your own life story. A conversation is a two way exchange of tidbits of information. Try and relate the things you say to the last thing that the other person says, Don't go off at a tangent, do try and link things together. I honestly don't know when you could bring number plates into a conversation! If you are asked about your hobbies you could mention it in passing but it won't spark much of a conversational thread.
if you don't show an interest in the other person's story then they won't find your company very rewarding.
Is there an adult NAS group or NHS autism support group that you could join? Perhaps you could get some face to face practice and training there?
