how do i make and keep friends???

hi longman,

how are you?...

hope everything is going well??...

my living circumstances have changed dramaticly since the last time i was on here, i do pop back from time to time for the advice and wisdom of many of the members here...

i am currently living in 1 bed flat, i have a regular income again and things on that side of my life couldnt be any better! no more sleeping rough and staying under bridges thank you for asking... 

i now would like some friends to fill my empty life...

i find communication extremely difficult and have limited intrests, small talk, and friendly gestures are way beyond my comprehension! i simply dont understand!

my intrests are music, computers, and car registration plates! i know abit strange as it often freaks people out! the conversation goes something like this....

"hi how are you?" i then give them the long story of my life in return and then blurt out this.. " oh by the way you drive a red car, and your reg number is blah blah blah!!" they find this extremely odd and if not a little stalkerish! :)

my eye contact is very limited, and i have in the past tried to change this... but have been told i give an intense "stare through you look!"... so i try not to do that anymore!

i find the art of small talk completely bewildering, as body language and facial expressions dont register on my brain either!!...

i find social interaction very intimidating as i feel im constantly being judged because im a little different... id like to learn how to mimic the small tall talk nt's do but find it very hard!... i never quite get how they do it!...

im very observant and i often focus on what others are doing which might give the impression im not listening or interested in what others are saying... i can see how this would put others off. im open to the idea of networking as i can be myself behind a screen without being intimidated or made to feel out of place... im also open and quite like the idea of emailing and keeping in touch with people too...

however i always hit the same barriers... what to talk about??? :(

i have a very limited knowledge of normal life, and it will always be a case of i dont fit in! but barriers are meant to be overcome and i will try my best to make contact with ohers and to maybe make some friends! 

i appreciate there are no easy answers, and i thank you for your time and input...

one more question... how did you learn the patter of chat??? 

thanks again

dave :)

hi longman,

how are you?...

hope everything is going well??...

my living circumstances have changed dramaticly since the last time i was on here, i do pop back from time to time for the advice and wisdom of many of the members here...

i am currently living in 1 bed flat, i have a regular income again and things on that side of my life couldnt be any better! no more sleeping rough and staying under bridges thank you for asking... 

i now would like some friends to fill my empty life...

i find communication extremely difficult and have limited intrests, small talk, and friendly gestures are way beyond my comprehension! i simply dont understand!

my intrests are music, computers, and car registration plates! i know abit strange as it often freaks people out! the conversation goes something like this....

"hi how are you?" i then give them the long story of my life in return and then blurt out this.. " oh by the way you drive a red car, and your reg number is blah blah blah!!" they find this extremely odd and if not a little stalkerish! :)

my eye contact is very limited, and i have in the past tried to change this... but have been told i give an intense "stare through you look!"... so i try not to do that anymore!

i find the art of small talk completely bewildering, as body language and facial expressions dont register on my brain either!!...

i find social interaction very intimidating as i feel im constantly being judged because im a little different... id like to learn how to mimic the small tall talk nt's do but find it very hard!... i never quite get how they do it!...

im very observant and i often focus on what others are doing which might give the impression im not listening or interested in what others are saying... i can see how this would put others off. im open to the idea of networking as i can be myself behind a screen without being intimidated or made to feel out of place... im also open and quite like the idea of emailing and keeping in touch with people too...

however i always hit the same barriers... what to talk about??? :(

i have a very limited knowledge of normal life, and it will always be a case of i dont fit in! but barriers are meant to be overcome and i will try my best to make contact with ohers and to maybe make some friends! 

i appreciate there are no easy answers, and i thank you for your time and input...

one more question... how did you learn the patter of chat??? 

thanks again

dave :)