Stress & Finding a Job

I think it is really bad if someone writes off a person because of their prejudices about the person or their abilities. We can deal with this by being angry or by educating the prejudiced person about the error of their ways.

It is tragic if someone takes the same attitude about themselves by applying their prejudices to their own situation. I use the word tragic in the sense of a greek or Shakespearean tragedy wherein the actors are condemned to their fate by an accident of thought or misconception or prejudice.

Pandoren, you are writing, and playing out, your own tragedy! You are writing yourself off as having no future and no hope because you can't see another ending. You are using the diagnosis as confirmation that you are a lost cause.

Other endings are available. It is possible to use the diagnosis as a key to unlock the possible rather than to reaffirm the impossible. Yes, this condition is for life but it does not have to be a life sentence.

I have mentioned before a book that I have been using to help me deal with my diagnosis. Living Well on the Spectrum by Valeris Gaus has the subtitle "How to use your strengths to meet the challenges of Asperger Syndrom/HFA". I think this is a really useful book that concentrates on understanding how we are different and then working out what we can do with our condition.

The book does not dwell on stress or depression or failure because we don't need reminding of that but we do need some guidance and direction about working out what we can do.

Please can you imagine that you will, one day, be able to escape the dark place that you are in now? Your post was permeated with depressive thoughts and I really do understand this as I have been there myself. I know how hard it is to believe that it is possible to escape from the darkness and how difficult it is to recognise your own strengths and abilities when all you can think of is the sheer hopelessness of the situation. Can you please try and rekindle a dream of being content and at ease with the world and your differences?

I think it is really bad if someone writes off a person because of their prejudices about the person or their abilities. We can deal with this by being angry or by educating the prejudiced person about the error of their ways.

It is tragic if someone takes the same attitude about themselves by applying their prejudices to their own situation. I use the word tragic in the sense of a greek or Shakespearean tragedy wherein the actors are condemned to their fate by an accident of thought or misconception or prejudice.

Pandoren, you are writing, and playing out, your own tragedy! You are writing yourself off as having no future and no hope because you can't see another ending. You are using the diagnosis as confirmation that you are a lost cause.

Other endings are available. It is possible to use the diagnosis as a key to unlock the possible rather than to reaffirm the impossible. Yes, this condition is for life but it does not have to be a life sentence.

I have mentioned before a book that I have been using to help me deal with my diagnosis. Living Well on the Spectrum by Valeris Gaus has the subtitle "How to use your strengths to meet the challenges of Asperger Syndrom/HFA". I think this is a really useful book that concentrates on understanding how we are different and then working out what we can do with our condition.

The book does not dwell on stress or depression or failure because we don't need reminding of that but we do need some guidance and direction about working out what we can do.

Please can you imagine that you will, one day, be able to escape the dark place that you are in now? Your post was permeated with depressive thoughts and I really do understand this as I have been there myself. I know how hard it is to believe that it is possible to escape from the darkness and how difficult it is to recognise your own strengths and abilities when all you can think of is the sheer hopelessness of the situation. Can you please try and rekindle a dream of being content and at ease with the world and your differences?