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ieva

This is probably more of a question to admins, but also I'm wondering(as we usually do), is it just me?

I love this forum; I really do, yet it bugs me that I'm not allowed to use my real name and photo.  Since finding out that I'm autistic and that I have spent most of my life masking, it is crucial for my well-being to be my raw self and not use masks. 

I do understand the reasoning behind these forum rules, yet considering that we are all adults in here, I believe we should have a choice to reveal our true identity or not. Since the very important step to learning to live with autism is to stop masking. 

I would truly appreciate the input from the community, which I think I like a lot x

Just wanted to add that if we are considered as being a vulnerable community, shouldn't our forum conversations be viewed by registered members only?

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  • I take your point but some of the reasoning may be that this isn't a closed forum ie it can be read by anyone whether a member or not.

    I think we are seen as vulnerable. 

    I wonder whether it's easier for NAS to have a blanket rule so that the most vulnerable amongst us are protected.

    Seeing the awful things that some public figures are subjected to on social media I personally would be anxious to reveal my identity. 

    As you say though it might be best being optional.

    I think I sit on the fence on this.

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    I'm sitting beside you this one B, for all that I share a lot about myself, I'm a very private person and I never say anything on here that I wouldn't be happy saying in any public space. I think my fear would be that as I'm not on any social media than here I wouldn't want stuff about me shared and discussed on other platforms that I don't know about. My family are aware of my feelings and don't tag me in anything, not that there are many photo's or anything of me because I hate being photographed so much.

    Whilst I wish there was more space for conversations of interest to some of us, but get removed due to others finding it offensive or maybe causing harm, I do get that its a difficult boundary to make and all of us are vulnerable at certain times and about certain things. I do like that there's not the horribleness that infects so many sites and so much public discourse. I think the real answer is more ways to stop the armchair trolls, warriors and selfish nasty people from ruining it for everyone else.

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  • in reply to B

    I'm sitting beside you this one B, for all that I share a lot about myself, I'm a very private person and I never say anything on here that I wouldn't be happy saying in any public space. I think my fear would be that as I'm not on any social media than here I wouldn't want stuff about me shared and discussed on other platforms that I don't know about. My family are aware of my feelings and don't tag me in anything, not that there are many photo's or anything of me because I hate being photographed so much.

    Whilst I wish there was more space for conversations of interest to some of us, but get removed due to others finding it offensive or maybe causing harm, I do get that its a difficult boundary to make and all of us are vulnerable at certain times and about certain things. I do like that there's not the horribleness that infects so many sites and so much public discourse. I think the real answer is more ways to stop the armchair trolls, warriors and selfish nasty people from ruining it for everyone else.

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