Can members recall their first love and if so, was it unrequited or more of a kind of "puppy love?"
Can members recall their first love and if so, was it unrequited or more of a kind of "puppy love?"
You're right, and in my case, the other chatters kept goading me into inviting her over to the UK. I was very reluctant because I really saw her as more of a friend than a lover. In the end, I gave in, but despite her sending me photos of herself, when I finally met her in person, she was clearly older than she appeared in the pictures. She was still a very sweet person, though. I think you really do have to meet someone in person before you can know if you're genuinely attracted to them in a romantic sense.
That's sweet, TheCatWoman.
My problem was that, since I never had much of a social life after entering puberty, I didn’t really have many chances to meet someone I might have thought I was in love with. There was this girl I worked with at my first job, and because it was a very small office with only three of us, we were in close contact every day. I got to know her quite well, and I knew she liked me and showed some romantic interest. Unfortunately, being a very shy teenager (around 16 or 17), I lacked the confidence to take things further. I’m not saying it would have turned into anything since we were so young, but I’ve always regretted not taking that opportunity. That was about 60 years ago!
For someone like me, assuming I’m on the spectrum, not being able to mix with women in the workplace has been a major handicap in forming potential relationships. The kinds of jobs I’ve had over the years were mostly in all-male environments, so there weren’t many opportunities to get to know girls.This is the problem when you don’t get out much.
A couple of years later, after moving on to another job, I finally got up the courage to write to her and ask how she was. She politely replied, so I thought I’d give her a call with the idea of meeting up. Unfortunately, when I did, her mom answered and told me she wasn’t available. I tried once more, but again her mom brushed me off. I figured she had moved on, was probably in a relationship, or just didn’t want to reconnect, so I gave up. Still, I often think back and wonder how things might have been if I’d been a bit more positive when we worked together.
Can members recall their first love and if so, was it unrequited or more of a kind of "puppy love?"
Yes, and neither actually.
What about you?
I once thought I was in love, but because it was an Internet relationship, it didn’t work out after I finally met the person who lived abroad and came to the UK. She was lovely to chat with online, but when we met in person, I realized I simply wasn’t attracted to her and had made a big mistake.
My first was gay - I was so naive I didn't know what 'gay' meant, so he used me as 'cover'. I experienced real love recently - in learning to love myself. Sounds strange, but after decades of bad parenting, coercive relationships, oor choice of 'friends,' I perceive this as positive. I am happier now than I've ever been.
Yes I was about 7 or 8 and me and a boy called Lee would sit in the playground and hold hands, I'd give him some of my favourtie beads, I think it last all of about a fortnight! Practicaly married!
